unhappybear 2007-10-24 17:10
我是一個失敗的人!!!!
我是一個失敗的人,無用的人．為什麼做人這樣失敗！！！！！！
這個世界是否不能容納這些”失敗者”．
人生最大的敵人是自己，但是我打不敗這個敵人！！！！！！！
做人可以無欲無求?
人生就像一場戲
相扶到老不容易
kingbar333 2007-10-25 12:38
使乜咁試真，最緊要開心，如想放縱下，add我msn傾下
[email]kingbar333@hotmail.com[/email]
vnc 2007-10-25 14:51
be happy ...
joe~4 2007-10-27 02:14
始終都係果句,>明天會更好<呀 !
fuckallday 2007-10-27 06:35
not your fault
unhappybear
From your other postings, I have learnt a bit about your history. I don't think you should blame yourself. Regarding your ex-husband, I don't know if you should blame him either, not knowing the whole story. Sometimes, things just happen out of your control. It is not that you have done something wrong which caused him to find another woman.
Maybe you should forget about the past (though iti s difficult). Try to concentrate yourself on things other than relationship. For example, if you have a job, maybe spend more time on getting a promotion. If you haven't worked before or foir a long time, try finding a job may help. Of course, developing some interests may be good too, such as gardening, reading, photography, etc.
princess_f 2007-10-28 13:36
人生就是要跌跌碰碰.
希望你快點開心起來.
kenny01 2007-10-29 14:26
每幾個禮拜就來一次.....其實我想問下,
你出既post係想比邊個timway member睇架
不如直接出名啦....
princess_f 2007-11-1 21:47
[quote]原帖由 [i]kenny01[/i] 於 2007-10-29 02:26 PM 發表
每幾個禮拜就來一次.....其實我想問下,
你出既post係想比邊個timway member睇架
不如直接出名啦.... [/quote]
你又幾聰明wor...這樣也想得到.我倒是不知道為什麼他這樣呢!
bongbongsan 2007-11-3 06:53
唔洗甘DOWN呀﹖
你有咩唔開心呀﹖講出呢大家分享吓
翠兒 2007-11-8 14:08
你講得太high level, 可否講詳細d, 發生咩事:wondering:
unhappybear 2007-11-8 17:29
[quote]原帖由 [i]fuckallday[/i] 於 2007-10-27 06:35 發表
unhappybear
From your other postings, I have learnt a bit about your history. I don't think you should blame yourself. Regarding your ex-husband, I don't know if you should blame him either, not ... [/quote]
其實好努希望放鬆自己，但當你仲係好在乎一個人的時侯，真的很辛苦，需要很長時間沖淡．幸好都有自已工作，如果沒有都不知道可以依賴誰．
我的工作好大壓力加上婚姻問題，（哪個女人回來深圳，第一次給我看見老公從她家門口出來，當時個人精神完全崩潰，她知道我已搬走，一次半夜打電話給我講了很多難以接受的說話），這件事開始到現在，我一直要工作真的沒有好好休息過，精神與身心都累透了，有時無法控制自己情緒．心理醫生也看過，都唔得．
其實做女人要求什麼？只要有一個重視和愛惜另一半在身邊，就算涯苦也心甘情願．
princess_f 2007-11-9 22:43
[quote]原帖由 [i]unhappybear[/i] 於 2007-11-8 05:29 PM 發表
其實好努希望放鬆自己，但當你仲係好在乎一個人的時侯，真的很辛苦，需要很長時間沖淡．幸好都有自已工作，如果沒有都不知道可以依賴誰．
我的工作好大壓力平𡩋茪k人回來深圳，第一次給我看見老公從她家門 ... [/quote]
說得對...女人希望有人對自己一心一意,關心自己.共同走人生路.
fuckallday 2007-11-10 06:29
Dear unhappy bear
From what you said about your husband, I suppose he is not an unreasonable person. If his woman is calling you to disturb you, maybe you should let him know about it so that he could stop her from doing so.
I don't think it is time to find someone to fill up the void. The important thing is to relax instead of indulging in thinking about the broken marriage.
As you said, you have significant work pressure. MY two-pence advice is to deal with work pressure by a normal heart. Don't give pressure on yourself. Yes, there are work deadlines and bosses to deal with at work. Nonetheless, as long as you are doing your best, no need to worry too much. One way to deal with the pressure envrionment is to go to your firends, family members. Don't hide everything and pretend that you are ok. Since you are seeking help from doctors, why not also seek support from friends and relatives. By seeking help, I don't mean telling them stories about how much you are hurt, how much you still remember your ex, but to involve in gatherings/social frunctions with them, like taking a trip with them, watching a movie, shoipping, etc. By the way, don't just indulge in your own sorrow, if your parents are around, should you also take some time to take care of them? You know, I myself have found that there are something that I consider given (like parents aorund, keep complaining to me about this and that). But one day, when they are gone, I will be sorry that I haven't spent more time with them.
Good luck and don't carry a sad face. Simle and appreicate that you are well and alive. Think about all those people suffering around the world. you are much better in a sense. Happy tomorrow
向問天 2007-11-10 08:10
兄弟, 大家咁話, 生活壓力好大
me too ...........
冒牌耶穌 2007-11-10 10:33
[quote]原帖由 [i]unhappybear[/i] 於 2007-10-24 17:10 發表
我是一個失敗的人,無用的人．為什麼做人這樣失敗！！！！！！
這個世界是否不能容納這些”失敗者”．
人生最大的敵人是自己，但是我打不敗這個敵人！！！！！！！
做人可以無欲無求?
人生就像一場戲
相 ... [/quote]
我都係一個失敗既人
但失敗會過去
明天,下個禮拜,下個月,下年...一定會更好
不用心灰
any2008 2007-11-10 13:46
谁都不是一个失败的人......
fuckallday 2007-11-22 06:08
Haven't heard from unahppy bear for a while, I hope she is feeling better now and can live a new life
unhappybear 2007-11-22 12:07
[quote]原帖由 [i]fuckallday[/i] 於 2007-11-22 06:08 發表
Haven't heard from unahppy bear for a while, I hope she is feeling better now and can live a new life [/quote]
謝謝關心!
其實我朋友不多,也不想將婚姻問題多講給朋友聽.為有在這裡舒發內心感受.
主要大家都不認識.可以暢所欲言.
kathywonder 2007-11-22 12:25
[quote]原帖由 [i]fuckallday[/i] 於 2007-11-22 06:08 發表
Haven't heard from unahppy bear for a while, I hope she is feeling better now and can live a new life [/quote]
That's what I worry about.
kathywonder 2007-11-22 12:28
[quote]原帖由 [i]unhappybear[/i] 於 2007-10-24 17:10 發表
我是一個失敗的人,無用的人．為什麼做人這樣失敗！！！！！！
這個世界是否不能容納這些”失敗者”．
人生最大的敵人是自己，但是我打不敗這個敵人！！！！！！！
做人可以無欲無求?
人生就像一場戲
相 ... [/quote]
Try read my Thread "漫談女人心", I did the same thing like you, maybe, but hope you can stand up again. I know you can make it!!
鐡軍 2007-11-22 20:53
回復 #18 unhappybear 的帖子
如果咁樣妳舒服d,咪多d上黎搵人傾下,可能好過睇心理醫生架
其實妳話自己失敗,妳失敗咩呢?老公轉投她人都唔可以話自己失敗噃,唔開心實有,不過唔係妳錯唔洗覺得自己失敗既
unhappybear 2007-11-22 21:55
[quote]原帖由 [i]鐡軍[/i] 於 2007-11-22 20:53 發表
[[i] 本帖最後由 unhappybear 於 2007-11-23 13:01 編輯 [/i]]
unhappybear 2007-11-22 22:15
:burst:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
[[i] 本帖最後由 unhappybear 於 2007-11-23 13:01 編輯 [/i]]
unhappybear 2007-11-22 23:21
:fire::fire::fire::fire::fire::fire::fire:.....................................
[[i] 本帖最後由 unhappybear 於 2007-11-23 13:02 編輯 [/i]]
kathywonder 2007-11-23 02:15
[quote]原帖由 [i]unhappybear[/i] 於 2007-11-22 23:21 發表
可能以前老公太自我,激嬲我時我會說出一些難聽的說話唔同佢生,其實我唔係唔生,我自己有個計劃,而從來沒有同老公商量過,就係想自己儲夠錢(私己錢)就生bb,等bb出世之後三年唔工作,留家照顧小孩等小孩讀書後先再出來 ... [/quote]
趁住仲有精神, 想寫 d 嘢給你; 由以上你所講, 你所做的, 無非都是為這個家, 為丈夫着想; 但當初你所做的, 都是一廂情願, 我說假如, 假知當初, 你可以 Open hearted 咁同你 husband 商量, ( I mean need more conversation for each other.) 可能......結果並唔會去到這個地步. I try to make it short. 事情發展至現在, 我唔知你丈夫對你有否留戀, 但可以說給你聽, 女人離婚並不是很 Shameful 嘅事; 你先生及他家人可以這般對待你, 想想, 你還可以再做什麽? 記住, 你要對自已有信心, 不要自怨自艾, 要活得比以前好, 比以前充實. 這樣的人生, 正是你應追求的人生. 你可以的......Kathy 相信你做得到!!
Kathy
allure 2007-11-23 02:41
[quote]原帖由 [i]unhappybear[/i] 於 2007-11-22 23:21 發表
可能[color=Red]以前老公太自我[/color],激嬲我時[color=Red]我會說出一些難聽的說話[/color]唔同佢生,其實我唔係唔生,我自己有個計劃,[color=Red]而從來沒有同老公商量過[/color],就係想自己儲夠錢(私己錢)就生bb,等bb出世之後三年唔工作,留家照顧小孩等小孩讀書後先再出來工作,因為三年間我不想老公負擔我的生活費用,(因為自己有很多固定支出).當目標達到,但為期己晚.[color=Red]可能自己的計劃是錯[/color]. [/quote]
[color=Teal]成日都見你好唔開心... 唔開心係要講出黎既... 我明....
不過, 係你唔開心之餘... 我諗你都應該面對問題囉(紅左果D)...
總括黎講, 就係覺得你係唔肯面對自己既缺點囉...
我絕對唔係話你先生背叛你既事係O岩, 亦唔係話所有事都係你既錯...
只係既然事情已經發生左...一味話對方背叛你亦無補於事架?
點解你唔好好檢討一下自己係咁多年黎做錯過D咩呢???
點解對方以前係心甘情願咁去娶你, 到而家變成你生活之中既一件行屍呢?
唔通真係佢一個人錯晒??? 你錯果D就係小事, 你錯既就情有可原??
人唔一定係完美架... 失敗過都係唔緊要架...
但既然已經失敗左, 輸左... 點解唔係失敗之中搵出錯處, 然後改左佢呢?
就算改好左都挽救唔番而家既老公都唔緊要架... 總好過你重複犯錯丫????
你諗清楚喇... 你地一齊生活.. 但兩個人竟然係完全無溝通既...連生小朋友都唔傾... 你真係愛佢???
你愛佢, 你又唔去嘗試明白佢?? 你愛佢, 你又唔去同佢溝通多D?
請你撫心自問... 究竟你愛佢D咩先??? 你真係愛佢??? 定係你愛自己多D呢?
你之所以對你老公唔肯放手, 唔係你仲好愛佢, 只係你怕你呢世都再無人愛咋??
如果你呢世都係一個淨係識賴人既女人... 咁你唔好比我批死你... 你呢世都好難再搵到人鍾意你...
希望你唔好介意我兜口兜面咁話你... 我知道比人話係一D都唔好受既...
但我都係過來人.... 我都留戀過一段錯配既婚姻.. 我都曾經好努力挽救過...
仲去左見臨床心理學家... 當時佢對我既婚姻問題作出左分析...
佢教左我最重要既野, 就係『照顧對方既感受』, 不過, 佢亦都建議我離開我丈夫...
當時我唔接受佢既建議架... 但最後我都真係聽佢講... 放手... 而家我咪又係開開心心咁做人!!!
unhappybear比次機會自己... 去將自己變番做一個值得人愛既人先喇...
一個人同你唔夾O者... 唔代表呢個世界人人都同你夾唔到架...
如果你係一個值得人去愛既女人... 懂得欣賞你既人就自然會出現架喇... good luck! :givemefive:[/color]
kathywonder 2007-11-23 09:09
[quote]原帖由 [i]allure[/i] 於 2007-11-23 02:41 發表
成日都見你好唔開心... 唔開心係要講出黎既... 我明....
不過, 係你唔開心之餘... 我諗你都應該面對問題囉(紅左果D)...
總括黎講, 就係覺得你係唔肯面對自己既缺點囉...
我絕對唔係話你先生背叛你既事係 ... [/quote]
Good point, 一針見血. Exactly what I wanna say!! :givemefive::givemefive:
男人 2007-11-23 09:35
分享和打打氣...
"25年來, 隔離屋有個單親女人一個湊大五個小朋友, 佢丈夫唔知去左邊, 只知佢丈夫外面有玩幾個女人。 而家個女人生活好好, 有個伴。"
眼看從前好似失敗,只要唔好放棄自己, 將來你必得著。
* 盡量唔好偏去諗唔開心既事導致影響睡眠。
加油!
細摩 2007-11-23 14:02
unhappy bear: 你係咁話有異議, 掟左十幾個p.m.俾我, 你好煩呀, 你係咪痴線架!!!!!!!!!!!!!
我講左好多次, 你有咩問題呀??!!! 你想點???? 你講出黎先得架!!!!!!! 如果再係咁做, 我終止你發言!!!!!
kathywonder 2007-11-23 18:46
[quote]原帖由 [i]細摩[/i] 於 2007-11-23 14:02 發表
unhappy bear: 你係咁話有異議, 掟左十幾個p.m.俾我, 你好煩呀, 你係咪痴線架!!!!!!!!!!!!!
我講左好多次, 你有咩問題呀??!!! 你想點???? 你講出黎先得架!!!!!!! 如果再係咁做, 我終止你發言!!!!! [/quote]
唔好勞氣, take it easy!! :P:P
allure 2007-11-24 01:37
[quote]原帖由 [i]細摩[/i] 於 2007-11-23 14:02 發表
unhappy bear: 你係咁話有異議, 掟左十幾個p.m.俾我, 你好煩呀, 你係咪痴線架!!!!!!!!!!!!!
我講左好多次, 你有咩問題呀??!!! 你想點???? 你講出黎先得架!!!!!!! 如果再係咁做, 我終止你發言!!!!! [/quote]
[color=Teal]係唔係我又野左d麻煩比你??? if yes... sorry ar!!! :bow:
唔好禁佢喇... 佢遲早都會明白架喎... :givemefive:
unhappybear... 希望你明白無人想你唔開心架!!
你絕對可以嬲我... 因為我選擇左個我一早知會比人嬲既方式去勸你...sorry!
但我係衷心希望你有一天, 真係可以放開心中既鬱結, 做番個有自信既女人! 共勉之!! :givemefive:[/color]
不平凡人 2007-11-24 11:41
[quote]原帖由 [i]細摩[/i] 於 2007-11-23 06:02 發表
unhappy bear: 你係咁話有異議, 掟左十幾個p.m.俾我, 你好煩呀, 你係咪痴線架!!!!!!!!!!!!!
我講左好多次, 你有咩問題呀??!!! 你想點???? 你講出黎先得架!!!!!!! 如果再係咁做, 我終止你發言!!!!! [/quote]
摩兄..人地都係呢排心情極之低落先會咁做姐...
唔好勞氣啦.....下次佢咁做..你咪唔好睇...一野del哂佢咪得囉...
fuckallday 2007-11-25 07:33
unhappybear
You can see that lots of people support you and want you to lead a normal life again. Therefore, cheer up and take your past experience as a lesson and learn from the mistakes.
crazywai 2007-11-25 18:57
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HoneyBeani 2007-11-26 20:48
[quote]原帖由 [i]allure[/i] 於 2007-11-23 04:41 發表
unhappybear比次機會自己... 去將自己變番做一個值得人愛既人先喇...
一個人同你唔夾O者... 唔代表呢個世界人人都同你夾唔到架...
如果你係一個值得人去愛既女人... 懂得欣賞你既人就自然會出現架喇... good luck! [/quote]
Totally agree with lulu,
good luck unhappybear
飛天舞 2007-12-17 16:28
[quote]原帖由 [i]unhappybear[/i] 於 2007-10-24 17:10 發表
我是一個失敗的人,無用的人．為什麼做人這樣失敗！！！！！！
這個世界是否不能容納這些”失敗者”．
人生最大的敵人是自己，但是我打不敗這個敵人！！！！！！！
做人可以無欲無求?
人生就像一場戲
相 ... [/quote]
我都是一個好失敗ge女人.最討厭自己其中一樣野就係心太軟.太重感情,搞到自己好辛苦.
unhappybear 2007-12-17 23:31
[quote]原帖由 [i]飛天舞[/i] 於 2007-12-17 16:28 發表
我都是一個好失敗ge女人.最討厭自己其中一樣野就係心太軟.太重感情,搞到自己好辛苦. [/quote]
我好想放鬆自己，有時好難做到．
fuckallday 2007-12-20 06:05
get some sipport from your friends, relatives and try to enjoy the festive Xmas holidays by eating and shopping.
Hope yuou have a merry Xmas
getalife 2008-1-6 17:47
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8866ps 2008-1-9 17:03
積極面對人生不要只自怨自憐 失敗不過是其中一次經驗 從中吸取教訓 明天一定會更好的
gypa11 2008-1-25 14:13
我也是一個失敗的人:'(
人生在這世間上究竟真的是為了甚麼？我不知道！但我個人認為孝順父母才是真正的責任，其他所有金錢名利和事物也只是虛幻的。
人與人之間的相處，真的是一種緣份，是過去修來的緣，同時亦為未來的因。 珍惜人生活著的時光 諸惡莫作，眾善奉行，人生目標以孝為先
getalife 2008-1-25 20:14
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sologuy 2008-1-27 17:42
[quote]原帖由 [i]unhappybear[/i] 於 2007-10-24 17:10 發表
我是一個失敗的人,無用的人．為什麼做人這樣失敗！！！！！！
這個世界是否不能容納這些”失敗者”．
人生最大的敵人是自己，但是我打不敗這個敵人！！！！！！！
做人可以無欲無求?
人生就像一場戲
相 ... [/quote]
今日, 我都有咁既feeling:'(
雖然係部份人眼中, 自己都算叻, 不過再唸下, 自己擁有些甚麼:wondering:
:afraid:
﹏。冰瞳。﹏ 2008-2-9 23:50
唔好勞氣!+油!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ayaya1 2008-2-22 22:54
唔好咁講...開心D NA!!!!
burgundybabies 2008-3-9 14:02
其實可能我永遠都唔會明白.....
一街都係人，哩個唔啱咪搵過第二個囉....
好多時所謂好愛一個人而放唔低，我覺得其實係假的。真正放唔低的係自己的自尊心：點解我對佢咁好，佢都要離開我？佢咁樣就係對我唔住。
只要明白，男女關係唔一定有道德責任，無合同約束，你愛佢一世，佢可以愛你一時，咁就咩煩惱都無。
煩惱自尋。搵唔到人，搵錢好過。
alex116868 2008-3-18 22:15
你不會那麼容易被擊倒的啦
duckduckduck 2008-3-25 22:22
加油 加油 明天一定會更好
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