COMMIN 2008-5-14 10:39
私家偵探一問
各位ching, 我想找個有信譽的私家偵探去查查在廣州的囡囡. 請問有沒有好介紹?
colorbhk 2008-5-14 10:56
查乜呀, 信唔過就 GIVE UP 啦, 傻豬 :saujai::saujai::saujai:
COMMIN 2008-5-14 11:12
已經GIVE UP, 但真的有點依依不捨. 我不是在歡場認識好的, 但無論在何處認識也好, 國內的囡囡總是有一個通病, 就是有千百萬個要錢的理由. 我查她的原因就是想弄清楚是不是直得放棄她
Haidada 2008-5-14 11:22
forget it, you know already the result..no need to check her la..
COMMIN 2008-5-14 11:26
我總是想找出一個真相吧!
easylover 2008-5-14 11:27
if you believe, go ahead. If you hv doubt, give up. No need to check, waste the time and money.
I paid more than 100K to her without any checking.
COMMIN 2008-5-14 11:52
我仍然未心死的原因和放棄她的原因如下:
1) 我不是因為懷疑她有別的男人才放棄她.
2) 她不是在歡場工作的女子.
3) 我知道她需要錢的原因. 但是否真的需要那麼多?
4) 我認識她的大部份親戚和朋友.
5) 我和她分手時, 她也大哭大鬧. (我就是想知道她是否來真的和她的近況如何?)
放棄她的原因:
1) 女人太煩了也迫得太緊, 人又要錢又要.
2) 要照顧她和她的家人責任太大了, 我不想擁太大壓力.
3) 她要的錢不少, 雖然我知道她要錢的用途. 但是否真的需要那麼多? 當中有多少真有多少假? 以往這些問題我不管的, 我想是與否也沒分別, 既然給得她就不要問太多只要大家得過開心便行. 但我後來想, 這直得嗎?
coke818 2008-5-14 12:08
C Hing，你都好矛盾！若查到她真的是需要這麼錢，你會怎樣？你還是會和她分開，還是不會給她錢的，那查你做咩！浪費金錢時間！
COMMIN 2008-5-14 12:17
沒什麼. 只想得個知字, 總好比現在心煩煩的好.
easylover 2008-5-14 12:18
everyone has the standard to treat things.
The standard of friend (he/she) for me has a bottom line, beyond the bottom line, i will say sorry to him/her. (your affordable amount, if it is money concern). I don't think you will check your friend about the reason of requesting money.
If he/she is your boy/girl friend, the standard for me will be higher. I will put more effort to get involve into his/her matter (but not check whether it is true or not)
If he/she is your family members, the standard is the highest. What you can do, you will do.
So, pls think about your standard before.
glucerna 2008-5-14 12:18
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-13 08:52 PM 發表
我仍然未心死的原因和放棄她的原因如下:
1) 我不是因為懷疑她有別的男人才放棄她.
2) 她不是在歡場工作的女子.
3) 我知道她需要錢的原因. 但是否真的需要那麼多?
4) 我認識她的大部份親戚和朋友.
5) 我和她 ... [/quote]
1)国內女子問香港男朋友拿錢,她們說是應份的.....
2)看艮碼大小,可以比,但可一而不可再.....
3)不是歡場工作的女子才識拿錢,聰明而有学識,拿男人錢才最厲害.....
4)好多和大部份親戚串通,因為你是"香港人":lol:lol:lol
.....
COMMIN 2008-5-14 13:01
先謝謝各位ching. 其寞實斥你們所說的的我都明白。 我最初也是本?玩的心態, 但自問臼自己扻技量太差了, 玩了真感情出來。 但現在她已一再又一再地趑超越了我的底線了, 所以我才跟她分開。 但我不知現在是捨不得她的美貌還是捨不得她本人?
colorbhk 2008-5-14 13:04
1)国內女子問香港男朋友拿錢,她們說是應份的.....
唔問你攞, 唔夠用時, 佢問第二個攞, 你又話佢勾佬 :L:L:L
2)看艮碼大小,可以比,但可一而不可再.....
同上 :reading::reading:
3)不是歡場工作的女子才識拿錢,聰明而有学識,拿男人錢才最厲害.....
係女人都可以問男人攞錢, 俾唔俾就睇大佬你自已覺得值唔值, 可唔可以負擔 :o:o:o
4)好多和大部份親戚串通 ...
唔好下下陰謀論, 有強姦, 冇焗賭 :lol:lol
再說, 大家在囡囡身上攞著數時, 有冇啉過囡囡點解要俾著數我地呢 :o:o:o
swon2454 2008-5-14 13:08
Never say never, conflict & confuse.
mac_don_lo 2008-5-14 13:45
你介紹個有錢既朋友話可以幫到佢, 睇佢會唔會鐘個頭埋去咪清楚law.
hongkonger 2008-5-14 13:50
[quote]原帖由 [i]colorbhk[/i] 於 2008-5-14 13:04 發表
1)国內女子問香港男朋友拿錢,她們說是應份的.....
唔問你攞, 唔夠用時, 佢問第二個攞, 你又話佢勾佬 :L:L:L
2)看艮碼大小,可以比,但可一而不可再.....
同上 :reading::reading:
3)不是 ... [/quote]
你好明理
女人問男人要錢,只要不貪婪,是應份的
唔通去做雞呀?
COMMIN 2008-5-14 13:53
錢可以要, 但不要過份. 我就是想知道她是什麼一回事, 好讓我走得心安理得.
denny2000 2008-5-14 13:59
[quote]原帖由 [i]colorbhk[/i] 於 2008-5-14 13:04 發表
再說, 大家在囡囡身上攞著數時, 有冇啉過囡囡點解要俾著數我地呢 [/quote]
That's a good comment. I admire those who get FOC and run away but pls also remember that the girls may get hurt, and will do the same thing (squeezing money) on her next man...
" 问心无槐“ is important...
hongkonger 2008-5-14 14:03
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-14 13:53 發表
錢可以要, 但不要過份. 我就是想知道她是什麼一回事, 好讓我走得心安理得. [/quote]
如果查到佢做雞, 同人上床唔戴套, 咁又點呀?
如果查到佢係好女仔, 日日為你思念, 眼淚洗面, 咁又點呀?
一係就一齊返, 一係就唔理佢
唔好查, 你查完仲心煩
COMMIN 2008-5-14 14:10
香港人實在太現實了. 一講到錢字就會左算右算. 難啊!
denny2000 2008-5-14 14:18
[quote]原帖由 [i]hongkonger[/i] 於 2008-5-14 14:03 發表
如果查到佢做雞, 同人上床唔戴套, 咁又點呀?
如果查到佢係好女仔, 日日為你思念, 眼淚洗面, 咁又點呀?
一係就一齊返, 一係就唔理佢
唔好查, 你查完仲心煩 [/quote]
Very true... It is not difficult to check the girl's mobile phone, QQ records.. I am quite sure you will find some secrets that you want/do not want to know. Are you ready for it? If not, do not search... If yes, then, you may not love her that much.
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[url]http://www.xl007.com/[/url]
easylover 2008-5-14 15:23
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-14 05:53 發表
錢可以要, 但不要過份. 我就是想知道她是什麼一回事, 好讓我走得心安理得. [/quote]
are u pretending be a rich man, so that she keep on asking you?
What is the meaning of "過份" in your standard? eg, you salary is 10K (if she know), and she ask for 100K,
then is it "過份" in your standard? :wondering:
Haidada 2008-5-14 15:28
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-14 14:10 發表
香港人實在太現實了. 一講到錢字就會左算右算. 難啊! [/quote]
The main problem is not money, but trust. If you have trust on her, why bother checking her, just give the money according to your ability..
If you do not have trust on her, there is no need to check her at all..the result will be what you are expecting..
So in both cases, there is no need to check her, Brother...
COMMIN 2008-5-14 15:32
我不是個有錢人, 但在經濟上還可有點鬆動(就是有點鬆動才可讓我出來玩). "過份"就是遠超一個普通國內人的生活開支.
COMMIN 2008-5-14 15:39
[quote]原帖由 [i]Haidada[/i] 於 2008-5-14 15:28 發表
The main problem is not money, but trust. If you have trust on her, why bother checking her, just give the money according to your ability..
If you do not have trust on her, there is no need t ... [/quote]
其實有很多問題都很難解釋. 我相信她是因為愛她, 而不是真心去相信.
現在就是想找個私家偵探查過究竟, 使我心安. 但問題就是怕找到一些不良的私家偵探令她有危險.
779394 2008-5-14 15:39
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-14 11:12 AM 發表
已經GIVE UP, 但真的有點依依不捨. 我不是在歡場認識好的, 但無論在何處認識也好, 國內的囡囡總是有一個通病, 就是有千百萬個要錢的理由. 我查她的原因就是想弄清楚是不是直得放棄她 [/quote]
知道左真相又點？只係會增加自已既傷痛，何必呢？何必必呢？亞門！
easylover 2008-5-14 15:41
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-14 07:32 發表
我不是個有錢人, 但在經濟上還可有點鬆動(就是有點鬆動才可讓我出來玩). "過份"就是遠超一個普通國內人的生活開支. [/quote]
The concept is not correct, for example if you hv a US friend ask you for 100K for 生活費, then you can
accept. If she is from china, you cannot accept.
If she keep on asking you, and she knows your situation, then you need to tell her the truth. After telling her the truth, she refuse to get along with you, then i think you can easily to forget her. (but not
checking on her).
COMMIN 2008-5-14 15:48
[quote]原帖由 [i]easylover[/i] 於 2008-5-14 15:41 發表
The concept is not correct, for example if you hv a US friend ask you for 100K for 生活費, then you can
accept. If she is from china, you cannot accept.
If she keep on asking you, and she ... [/quote]
內裡有太多千絲萬縷的因素, 在此很難詳細地說. 講到尾我就是不想擔那麼大的責任, 因為她有太多不明朗的問題而令我反思是否直得去為好付出那麼多.
Haidada 2008-5-14 15:58
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-14 15:39 發表
其實有很多問題都很難解釋. 我相信她是因為愛她, 而不是真心去相信.
現在就是想找個私家偵探查過究竟, 使我心安. 但問題就是怕找到一些不良的私家偵探令她有危險. [/quote]
"You trust her because you love her"..
You should have said you want to trust her because you love her..actaully you do not trust her..and there must have been a lot of things that made you not to trust her.
Let me tell you Brother, trust your feelings, feelings do not lie..but you lie to yourself..
Think you know her quite well already and there is no need to have someone else tell you she is not trustworthy..
easylover 2008-5-14 16:05
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-14 07:48 發表
內裡有太多千絲萬縷的因素, 在此很難詳細地說. 講到尾我就是不想擔那麼大的責任, 因為她有太多不明朗的問題而令我反思是否直得去為好付出那麼多. [/quote]
"講到尾我就是不想擔那麼大的責任" means you don't trust her; you don't love her.
she ask you that amount (over your standard) means she don't trust you (you hv no more money);
she don't love you.
COMMIN 2008-5-14 16:07
[quote]原帖由 [i]Haidada[/i] 於 2008-5-14 15:58 發表
"You trust her because you love her"..
You should have said you want to trust her because you love her..actaully you do not trust her..and there must have been a lot of things that m ... [/quote]
所以我一直懷疑我是否真的愛她. 但愛不是盲目的, 我想我也是一個有理性的人, 當付出遠超出了底線後, 我便要反思是否直我得去繼續.
easylover 2008-5-14 16:11
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-14 08:07 發表
所以我一直懷疑我是否真的愛她. 但愛不是盲目的, 我想我也是一個有理性的人, 當付出遠超出了底線後, 我便要反思是否直我得去繼續. [/quote]
Now, this is not the matter of how much you love her, but the truth is she do not love you. :'(:'(:'(
COMMIN 2008-5-14 16:14
[quote]原帖由 [i]easylover[/i] 於 2008-5-14 16:05 發表
"講到尾我就是不想擔那麼大的責任" means you don't trust her; you don't love her.
she ask you that amount (over your standard) means she don't trust you (you hv no more money);
she d ... [/quote]
"愛", 我相信她是愛我的. 但那是一時三刻的愛還是恆久的愛? 這我也很想知.
easylover 2008-5-14 16:22
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-14 08:14 發表
"愛", 我相信她是愛我的. 但那是一時三刻的愛還是恆井傮Q知. [/quote]
your thinking is too complicated, even in hk, when people get married, still cannot garantee. It depends
on how much effort BOTH OF YOU make, not just you, or just her. :reading:
COMMIN 2008-5-14 16:25
[quote]原帖由 [i]easylover[/i] 於 2008-5-14 16:22 發表
your thinking is too complicated, even in hk, when people get married, still cannot garantee. It depends
on how much effort BOTH OF YOU make, not just you, or just her. :reading: [/quote]
當然大家都有付出不少. 但她確實有很多不明朗又難以解釋的問題使我卻步.
Haidada 2008-5-14 16:33
I always say that money is the best parameter to check if the MM loves you or not. If she is only asking money all the time, with different excuses, for sure she does not love you...but only likes your money...
Forget her la..altho it is hard..because you love her...
coke818 2008-5-14 22:32
C Hing，一句到尾，你不如承認「你係唔愛佢！」若果你真係愛佢，你最低限度唔會搵私家偵探去查佢，你對佢連一點點的信任都沒有，談何付出，談何愛呢！
some167 2008-5-14 23:42
[quote]原帖由 [i]coke818[/i] 於 2008-5-14 22:32 發表
C Hing，一句到尾，你不如承認「你係唔愛佢！」若果你真係愛佢，你最低限度唔會搵私家偵探去查佢，你對佢連一點點的信任都沒有，談何付出，談何愛呢！ [/quote]
:givemefive: 贊同 C Hing 說法，如果妳是愛她但只是她要求超出你能負擔的，大可以跟她直說，不用充有錢佬，找私家偵探查，是不是想自己找個心安理得的理由安慰自己飛佢是應該吧?如果只是出來玩玩，忘記算吧，省那些錢去幫四川同胞吧．．．．
KMY89 2008-5-15 00:32
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-14 16:25 發表
當然大家都有付出不少. 但她確實有很多不明朗又難以解釋的問題使我卻步. [/quote]
[color=Purple]國內私家偵探99.9% 都係騙子，他會花2個鐘聆聽和做note，最後報一個估計你可以承受的價格，再報一個估計你可以承受付的deposit，e.g. $1-2,000，然後 bye bye ...[/color]
[color=Brown]但 0.01% 果D精英真係堅 ..[/color]. :verygood:
colorbhk 2008-5-15 00:39
聽吓人講, 將請私家偵探D錢捐去救災. 跟住返屋企拉搵隻" 就讓一切隨風"聽吓啦, 傻豬 :saujai::saujai:
gnufnih 2008-5-15 03:15
Hey, brother, don't waste your time and money, go on with your life
Essie 2008-5-15 05:14
Search the web la...but I think you're wasting your money and time!!!
COMMIN 2008-5-15 08:01
[quote]原帖由 [i]KMY89[/i] 於 2008-5-15 00:32 發表
國內私家偵探99.9% 都係騙子，他會花2個鐘聆聽和做note，最後報一個估計你可以承受的價格，再報一個估計你可以承受付的deposit，e.g. $1-2,000，然後 bye bye ...
但 0.01% 果D精英真係堅 ... :verygood: [/quote]
ching多謝你意見. 我不找私家偵探就是這個原因. 騙錢其一, 最怕是他們知道我囡囡的行蹤之後會有其他不軌行為對她不利.
mobydick 2008-5-15 08:44
So contradictory, so complicate, so simple! You really love her, you won't care nothing, even money or life! You do not know what is LOVE. Seems like you just want to have fun with her and do not want to give up because she is pretty only. You spent so much on her and you wanted to get 200% back from her. That's why you so concern your investment. Brothers are right. Let go! Don't hurt her nor yourself!
Try to look for a new girl friend instead.
COMMIN 2008-5-15 08:55
[quote]原帖由 [i]mobydick[/i] 於 2008-5-15 08:44 發表
So contradictory, so complicate, so simple! You really love her, you won't care nothing, even money or life! You do not know what is LOVE. Seems like you just want to have fun with her and do no ... [/quote]
ching, 你說得沒錯! 我又說愛她, 但又不想擔起好的柦子(因為我在香港的柦子也很大, 加上她時常有不同要錢的理由). 那我究竟是否真的愛她? 還是只愛她的美貌? 我自己也想弄清楚.
pentree21 2008-5-15 09:11
The other point you need to consider is how the 私家偵探 could find out for you "但那是一時三刻的愛還是恆久的愛?".
Please do consider all the brothers' advice to let go your feeling with the girl.
anakin 2008-5-15 09:17
[quote]
那我究竟是否真的愛她? 還是只愛她的美貌? 我自己也想弄清楚
[/quote]
你要做乜都好，攪清楚自己想點先啦！
你而家都十五十六話心煩，到查到個並非你其望既結果出黎，
你一樣係好似而家咁十五十六話心煩，何必?
分手係唔需要證據，只需要籍口！
COMMIN 2008-5-15 09:25
[quote]原帖由 [i]anakin[/i] 於 2008-5-15 09:17 發表
你要做乜都好，攪清楚自己想點先啦！
你而家都十五十六話心煩，到查到個並非你其望既結果出黎，
你一樣係好似而家咁十五十六話心煩，何必?
分手係唔需要證據，只需要籍口！ [/quote]
"分手係唔需要證據，只需要籍口!"我絕對同意. 因為我在她最需要我的時候去離棄她, 我覺得很耐久, 所以想找人幫我拿個籍口來使自己安心. 我這種人簡直就是賤人.
Haidada 2008-5-15 10:21
[quote]原帖由 [i]COMMIN[/i] 於 2008-5-15 09:25 發表
"分手係唔需要證據，只需要籍口!"我絕對同意. 因為我在她最需要我的時候去離棄她, 我覺得很耐久, 所以想找人幫我拿個籍口來使自己安心. 我這種人簡直就是賤人. [/quote]
Brother COMMIN,
Dont blame yourself, actually we all have gone thru this similar situation:
You want to keep her but you dont want to spend too much money,
You want to let go but you still like the MM,
you feel that she does not love you but you dont want to believe this,
I know it is difficult to just let the MM go, but please think that if a MM stays with you only for money, why bother wasting you time and money...
It is not the Mm who is cheating you, it is you cheating yourself. ..
colorbhk 2008-5-15 10:23
買仔莫擵頭, 分手咪撚講理由 :saujai::saujai::saujai: