I married my wife for 8 years. We got a common female friend. In last 6 months, I had a very close relationship with her. Finally, we kissed each other last night. We understood we love each other. She knew that I won¡¦t leave my wife. But she just cannot bear to have such kind of affair with me. I felt I was so stupid. May be I should only keep my love in the bottom of my heart and keep our relationship in just very close friend. Sad¡K.

I am going to hold back. I don¡¦t want to hurt anyone. Just carry one more regrets in my life. Should be the best choice, isn¡¦t it?

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i don't understand the reason you felt sad?
frankly, becoz you didn't get more intimately.
(plz don't be offenced ... just anser your-own-self)

you should be happy !
still remember the date you proposed to you wife?
still remember the date you got married?
still remember her smile that you have to marry her?

think .... if you can live together with your wife's friend for 8 years?

I don't know if you should hold back. In any event, you are hurting the third person and yourself, maybe your wife as well. Be true to yourself, will it be the same if you stick with your wife? Are you treating the third person as a gf only? Are you prepared to marry her and start a family with her?

I can see that you are a responsible person as you consider the feeling of your wife, etc. Nonetheless, a married relationship based purely on responsibility and without love won't last long or won't have a happy ending.

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I don't know if you should hold back. In any event, you are hurting the third person and yourself, maybe your wife as well. Be true to yourself, will it be the same if you stick with your wife? Are ...

Thanks for your advice.

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Dear unhappy bear

I understand what you feel in the situation that you have undergone. However, what we have been idscussed here applies to both men and women. These days, not only men may get attracted by a third person but women as well. Of course, there are lots of things involved in a marriage relationship, not only love, but also commitment, responsibility, etc. However, if keeping a marriage relationship may hurt all three parties involved, what is your advice to handle such a situation?

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I understand "what is marriage". I know how to be a good husband.

My wife is always doing well to me. I remember all the time we spent with each other.

I love her. She trusts me and we are a very happy couple.

But... I can tell... she is not the one I love the most.

She is the one who I can live with for life time.

We can keep maintaining our relationship as good as it is, no doubt till die.

That is my marriage. I accept and appreciate that when I choose to marry her.

We¡¦ve been together for 13 years.

During these 13 years, I never met someone who can touch my heart so deep.

She (our common friend) just comes up in a very wrong moment.

And I shouldn¡¦t allow her to get into our life.

Most of the time, I cannot stop myself to staring at her.

We can see through each other and touch each other¡¦s soul.

All is just so perfect and so difficult to hold back.

Don¡¦t worry, I know what I should do. I will be good to wife and be a good husband.

just read this (Âà¶K)·R»P·R±¡ªº¤À§O

http://forum.timway.com/f/thread-88865-1-4.html

will try my best to protect and maintain my marriage.

I don't know if many others share the same feeling as you but I am definitely one of them. I am in a similar situation as you and also ªü°¶ in the story. While passionate love may not continue to exist in my marriage, there are understanding and other feelings towards my wife in the relationship. Therefore, though I feel empty at times in my heart, I've tried to fill it with other activities, like community work, reading, daydreaming, etc.

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SALLY:
The sun comes up,
I chink about you.
The coffee cup,
I think about you.
I want you so,
It's like I'm losing my mind.
The morning ends,
I think about you.
I talk to friends,
I think about you.
And do they know?
It's like I'm losing my mind.
All afternoon,
Doing every little chore,
The thought of you stays bright.
Sometimes I stand
In the middle of the floor,
Not going left,
Not going right.
I dim the lights
And think about you,
Spend sleepless nights
To think about you.
You said you loved me,
Or were you just being kind?
Or am I losing my mind?
I want you so,
It's like I'm losing my mind.
Does no one know?
It's like I'm losing my mind.
All afternoon,
Doing every little chore,
The thought of you stays bright.
Sometimes I stand
In the middle of the floor,
Not going left,
Not going right.
I dim the lights
And think about you,
Spend sleepless nights
To think about you.
You said you loved me,
Or were you just being kind!
Or am I losing my mind?

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LFgngL8gIqc

SALLY:
The sun comes up,
I chink about you.
The coffee cup,
I think about you.
I want you so,
It's like I'm losing my mind.
The morning ends,
I ...

My friend, it is mostly an illusion. When time goes on and on, you feel your marriage is a little bit boring. Now you compare the good and the bad of the two woman. The girl friend has given you stimulation and stirring deep in your heart. While you wife is living with you just like the other days.

Well, nobody can help you except yourself. It is a kind of desire which you feel very excited now. After you clam down, you feel sorry for your wife.

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But she bumped into my life. I don¡¦t really know why I am falling into her.

We love to stay in a café and do nothing for a day; we go out and drink together. She knew that I am married and she met my wife. We understand we can only be good friend and we both tried very hard to maintain our relationship in just good friend.

But finally, I did something stupid¡K we hug and kiss each other¡K

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