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原帖由 COMMIN 於 2008-5-14 11:12 AM 發表
已經GIVE UP, 但真的有點依依不捨.  我不是在歡場認識好的, 但無論在何處認識也好, 國內的囡囡總是有一個通病, 就是有千百萬個要錢的理由.  我查她的原因就是想弄清楚是不是直得放棄她

知道左真相又點？只係會增加自已既傷痛，何必呢？何必必呢？亞門！

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原帖由 COMMIN 於 2008-5-14 07:32 發表
我不是個有錢人, 但在經濟上還可有點鬆動(就是有點鬆動才可讓我出來玩).  "過份"就是遠超一個普通國內人的生活開支.

The concept is not correct, for example if you hv a US friend ask you for 100K for 生活費, then you can
accept.  If she is from china, you cannot accept.

If she keep on asking you, and she knows your situation, then you need to tell her the truth.  After telling her the truth, she refuse to get along with you, then i think you can easily to forget her.  (but not
checking on her).

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原帖由 easylover 於 2008-5-14 15:41 發表


The concept is not correct, for example if you hv a US friend ask you for 100K for 生活費, then you can
accept.  If she is from china, you cannot accept.

If she keep on asking you, and she  ...

內裡有太多千絲萬縷的因素, 在此很難詳細地說.  講到尾我就是不想擔那麼大的責任, 因為她有太多不明朗的問題而令我反思是否直得去為好付出那麼多.

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原帖由 COMMIN 於 2008-5-14 15:39 發表

其實有很多問題都很難解釋.  我相信她是因為愛她, 而不是真心去相信.
現在就是想找個私家偵探查過究竟, 使我心安.  但問題就是怕找到一些不良的私家偵探令她有危險.

"You trust her because you love her"..
You should have said you want to trust her because you love her..actaully you do not trust her..and there must have been a lot of things that made you not to trust her.
Let me tell you Brother, trust your feelings, feelings do not lie..but you lie to yourself..
Think you know her quite well already and there is no need to have someone else tell you she is not trustworthy..

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原帖由 COMMIN 於 2008-5-14 07:48 發表

內裡有太多千絲萬縷的因素, 在此很難詳細地說.  講到尾我就是不想擔那麼大的責任, 因為她有太多不明朗的問題而令我反思是否直得去為好付出那麼多.

"講到尾我就是不想擔那麼大的責任" means you don't trust her; you don't love her.
she ask you that amount (over your standard) means she don't trust you (you hv no more money);
she don't love you.

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原帖由 Haidada 於 2008-5-14 15:58 發表


"You trust her because you love her"..
You should have said you want to trust her because you love her..actaully you do not trust her..and there must have been a lot of things that m ...

所以我一直懷疑我是否真的愛她.  但愛不是盲目的, 我想我也是一個有理性的人, 當付出遠超出了底線後, 我便要反思是否直我得去繼續.

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原帖由 COMMIN 於 2008-5-14 08:07 發表

所以我一直懷疑我是否真的愛她.  但愛不是盲目的, 我想我也是一個有理性的人, 當付出遠超出了底線後, 我便要反思是否直我得去繼續.

Now, this is not the matter of how much you love her, but the truth is she do not love you.

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原帖由 easylover 於 2008-5-14 16:05 發表


"講到尾我就是不想擔那麼大的責任" means you don't trust her; you don't love her.
she ask you that amount (over your standard) means she don't trust you (you hv no more money);
she d ...

"愛", 我相信她是愛我的.  但那是一時三刻的愛還是恆久的愛? 這我也很想知.

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原帖由 COMMIN 於 2008-5-14 08:14 發表

"愛", 我相信她是愛我的.  但那是一時三刻的愛還是恆井傮Q知.

your thinking is too complicated, even in hk, when people get married, still cannot garantee.  It depends
on how much effort BOTH OF YOU make, not just you, or just her.

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原帖由 easylover 於 2008-5-14 16:22 發表


your thinking is too complicated, even in hk, when people get married, still cannot garantee.  It depends
on how much effort BOTH OF YOU make, not just you, or just her.

當然大家都有付出不少.  但她確實有很多不明朗又難以解釋的問題使我卻步.

I always say that money is the best parameter to check if the MM loves you or not. If she is only asking money all the time, with different excuses, for sure she does not love you...but only likes your money...
Forget her la..altho it is hard..because you love her...

C Hing，一句到尾，你不如承認「你係唔愛佢！」若果你真係愛佢，你最低限度唔會搵私家偵探去查佢，你對佢連一點點的信任都沒有，談何付出，談何愛呢！

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原帖由 coke818 於 2008-5-14 22:32 發表
C Hing，一句到尾，你不如承認「你係唔愛佢！」若果你真係愛佢，你最低限度唔會搵私家偵探去查佢，你對佢連一點點的信任都沒有，談何付出，談何愛呢！

贊同 C Hing 說法，如果妳是愛她但只是她要求超出你能負擔的，大可以跟她直說，不用充有錢佬，找私家偵探查，是不是想自己找個心安理得的理由安慰自己飛佢是應該吧?如果只是出來玩玩，忘記算吧，省那些錢去幫四川同胞吧．．．．

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原帖由 COMMIN 於 2008-5-14 16:25 發表

當然大家都有付出不少.  但她確實有很多不明朗又難以解釋的問題使我卻步.

國內私家偵探99.9% 都係騙子，他會花2個鐘聆聽和做note，最後報一個估計你可以承受的價格，再報一個估計你可以承受付的deposit，e.g. $1-2,000，然後 bye bye ...

但 0.01% 果D精英真係堅 ...

聽吓人講, 將請私家偵探D錢捐去救災. 跟住返屋企拉搵隻" 就讓一切隨風"聽吓啦, 傻豬

Hey, brother, don't waste your time and money, go on with your life

Search the web la...but I think you're wasting your money and time!!!

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原帖由 KMY89 於 2008-5-15 00:32 發表


國內私家偵探99.9% 都係騙子，他會花2個鐘聆聽和做note，最後報一個估計你可以承受的價格，再報一個估計你可以承受付的deposit，e.g. $1-2,000，然後 bye bye ...

但 0.01% 果D精英真係堅 ...

ching多謝你意見.  我不找私家偵探就是這個原因.  騙錢其一, 最怕是他們知道我囡囡的行蹤之後會有其他不軌行為對她不利.

So contradictory, so complicate, so simple!  You really love her, you won't care nothing, even money or life!  You do not know what is LOVE.  Seems like you just want to have fun with her and do not want to give up because she is pretty only.  You spent so much on her and you wanted to get 200% back from her.  That's why you so concern your investment.   Brothers are right.  Let go!  Don't hurt her nor yourself!
Try to look for a new girl friend instead.

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原帖由 mobydick 於 2008-5-15 08:44 發表
So contradictory, so complicate, so simple!  You really love her, you won't care nothing, even money or life!  You do not know what is LOVE.  Seems like you just want to have fun with her and do no ...

ching, 你說得沒錯!  我又說愛她, 但又不想擔起好的柦子(因為我在香港的柦子也很大, 加上她時常有不同要錢的理由).  那我究竟是否真的愛她?  還是只愛她的美貌?  我自己也想弄清楚.

The other point you need to consider is how the 私家偵探 could find out for you "但那是一時三刻的愛還是恆久的愛?".

Please do consider all the brothers' advice to let go your feeling with the girl.

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那我究竟是否真的愛她?  還是只愛她的美貌?  我自己也想弄清楚

你要做乜都好，攪清楚自己想點先啦！
你而家都十五十六話心煩，到查到個並非你其望既結果出黎，
你一樣係好似而家咁十五十六話心煩，何必?

分手係唔需要證據，只需要籍口！

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原帖由 anakin 於 2008-5-15 09:17 發表




你要做乜都好，攪清楚自己想點先啦！
你而家都十五十六話心煩，到查到個並非你其望既結果出黎，
你一樣係好似而家咁十五十六話心煩，何必?

分手係唔需要證據，只需要籍口！

"分手係唔需要證據，只需要籍口!"我絕對同意.  因為我在她最需要我的時候去離棄她, 我覺得很耐久, 所以想找人幫我拿個籍口來使自己安心.   我這種人簡直就是賤人.

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原帖由 COMMIN 於 2008-5-15 09:25 發表

"分手係唔需要證據，只需要籍口!"我絕對同意.  因為我在她最需要我的時候去離棄她, 我覺得很耐久, 所以想找人幫我拿個籍口來使自己安心.   我這種人簡直就是賤人.

Brother COMMIN,
Dont blame yourself, actually we all have gone thru this similar situation:
You want to keep her but you dont want to spend too much money,
You want to let go but you still like the MM,
you feel that she does not love you but you dont want to believe this,

I know it is difficult to just let the MM go, but please think that if a MM stays with you only for money, why bother wasting you time and money...

It is not the Mm who is cheating you, it is you cheating yourself. ..

買仔莫擵頭, 分手咪撚講理由