Concerning Doremi
Concerning Doremi:
This morning I texted Doremi in Chinese:
'(english translation) These two weeks some forum members
have been talking about you a lot. Has that attracted any troublesome customers from outside to visit you?'
On her way to work aroudn 11 am, she texted back:
'I do not like to be discussed by others online. Can you help
me?'
Then I talked to her on the phone for one or two minutes.
Fellow members, you may react by calling me
a troublemaker (in my own right),
but I (and certain other Windsor customers) have known
this girl for a matter of years.
Once when she changed workplace, I reported about the then new bg at that place (who was her) without referring to her old workplace and number, but later she very kindly, without any anger or resentment (which showed her gentleness) asked me to delete my post about her, but I could not because it was past the time limit. She said she didn't want to be exposed to much, telling me her personal reasons.
Then last year, when she changed over to Windsor, I went
to visit her on her first day there. She said it would be ok if she was mentioned on the forum, but still she would not like to be talked about too much. Then one or two members and I wrote
just one or two lines about her.
I remember that I have written in another thread that in paticular, the early shift bgs at Windsor in general do not like to be talked too much about, and Doremi is in the early shift.
Fellow members, please appreciate the pressure she could be under now that she is being discussed a bit too much.
Actually only very few of the early-shift girls read our thread,
but jealousy/speaking behind back is part of human nature,
and we can't rule out the possibility that certain girls at Windsor are liable.
Also, imagine the embarrassment caused when one bg is explicitly compared with another, with the writer saying one
is better than the other. Imagine customers telling the other bg who was compared unfavourably with Doremi.
Such comparison bewteen another pair of bgs has been made before, and at least one of the two knew, and
resented such comparison, although she was the one who was more favourably rated.
Actually, it would be very difficult if we forum members
had to ask for a bg's permission before we talked about her.
So it is always best to exercise some self-restraint, avoiding saying too much about her.
Still, a disaster once happened with a bg here who was just very briefly written about by two members. Her boyfriend who read the posts was so cruel to dump her because of just that little exposure of her girl, though nothing sensitive had been said............It was so saddening and frustrating, and I was indignant 憤慨 with that man who was so mean and unfair.............BUT we just couldn't help it.......
And certain bgs may still tend to generalise most forum members as
indiscreet不縝密 and hold a negative view of us even if only a few have been somewhat careless while the rest try to strike a balance.
So back to doremi, our dear bg and my old friend,
I hope you understand how she thinks, and respect her by not more than merely mentioning her.
Thank you.
[ 本帖最後由 白貓兒 於 2011-2-28 14:07 編輯 ]
