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原帖由 Haidada 於 2009-2-2 07:54 PM 發表


一次在江阴。。朋友的LB约了一个美女出来玩说要介绍给另一个朋友。。那女很漂亮。。是有女人味那种。。但她没看上要介绍给她的那个人 ...

大陸囡囡就係這样子,我是見怪不怪。。但有些救國經驗尚淺的人,就會覺得奇怪,

點解囡囡要結婚？為什広有老公都要搞搞震？點答？

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原帖由 glucerna 於 2009-2-3 11:41 發表
大陸囡囡就係這样子,我是見怪不怪。。但有些救國經驗尚淺的人,就會覺得奇怪,
點解囡囡要結婚？為什広有老公都要搞搞震？點答？

系呀。。我上面也刚讲了。。比钱X西之嘛。点解要搞甘多野既。。新救国的暂时不会明白既啦。。

師兄你又為何?
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我覺得我有老婆出得來玩...為乜佢有老公唔出得來玩呀？

你又比個解釋我吖？

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原帖由 glucerna 於 2009-2-3 11:41 發表


大陸囡囡就係這样子,我是見怪不怪。。但有些救國經驗尚淺的人,就會覺得奇怪,

點解囡囡要結婚？為什広有老公都要搞搞震？點答？

agree .. the more girls you know, the more weird things you heard from them.  Marriage is just a process to many of them that they must go thru.  Separation is no big deal..  Cheating behind husbands is common..  Of course, it is not fair to say all mainland girls are like that since girls I/we know of are mainly those working girls and their mentality are so different from those who are "non-working" girls.  I have female colleagues who are just traditional girls who married to their first lover (they claimed and I believed).

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原帖由 Haidada 於 2009-2-3 11:41 發表


师兄呢D系一楼一玩法咯。。出左就无野啦。。其实连名都吾使问既果种咯。。你比钱条女比你X。就系甘啦。。
另一种就是玩得深入D。。有点感情玩得过瘾好多既。。当然就要付出多很多啦 ...

午安呀! 大海師兄
是的! 有了感情玩時既感覺好正, 那股魔力非常大!
可惜, 對於現在已婚的我, 確係輸唔起, 所以我選擇留精不留情!

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原帖由 denny2000 於 2009-2-3 12:04 發表
agree .. the more girls you know, the more weird things you heard from them.  Marriage is just a process to many of them that they must go thru.  Separation is no big deal..  Cheating behind husba ...

And marriage now in the rurul area of China is especially weird, I think:-
the marriage is still mainly thru brokerage...an interview and if okay for both sides they get married within a few months...
Many of ah Jiao's friends got married to the yound kids similar to the girls, some even younger...the youngest Ah Jiao knows is just 16 and 17 when they got married..
Ah Jiao's sisten is alrady 26/27 now and has a boyfriend outside, of course, and she goes back home for interviews and when it is okay she will get married also immediately..
The girl wants to get married before they become too old..and the parents are also urging..

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原帖由 Haidada 於 2009-2-3 12:59 發表


And marriage now in the rurul area of China is especially weird, I think:-
the marriage is still mainly thru brokerage...an interview and if okay for both sides they get married within a few mont ...

I had girls telling me something similar. I asked what if you did not love him (and vice versa) . she said "separated lor".  Separation is a small deal in China, not like HK, who has to go thru. the 2 years of separation, custody rights, etc.  I also ask what to do with kids.  she/they told me "just dump it to father/mother/relatives and she will be available again..

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原帖由 denny2000 於 2009-2-3 13:36 發表

I had girls telling me something similar. I asked what if you did not love him (and vice versa) . she said "separated lor".  Separation is a small deal in China, not like HK, who has to go thru. t ...

Exaxtly....the idea of marriage now in China is totally different from that we think....hv heard quite a lot actually...

A Henan MM i met in a SN..she went home for CNY and her mother insisted her get engaged before allowing her to come out again..then a boy younger than her..and has another girl friend...

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原帖由 Haidada 於 2009-2-3 15:03 發表


Exaxtly....the idea of marriage now in China is totally different from that we think....hv heard quite a lot actually...

A Henan MM i met in a SN..she went home for CNY and her mother insisted  ...

哩Ｄ觀念真係落後兼腐化....唔知而家Ｄ做緊ＳＮ工作的囡囡...二十年後又會唔會迫佢自己個女早嫁人呢???

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原帖由 simonkok 於 2009-2-3 15:09 發表

哩Ｄ觀念真係落後兼腐化....唔知而家Ｄ做緊ＳＮ工作的囡囡...二十年後又會唔會迫佢自己個女早嫁人呢???

农村就是这个观念。。。再过十年二十年大概还是差不多吧。。
我的 EX LB 就是为结婚而回家结婚的。拒呀妈也逼拒。。结果就后悔。。但已生了一个BB啦。。甘就系甘啦。。可能忍吾住就又离婚啦。。

唉！唔系噤，邊有噤多好野俾我地食啞！

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原帖由 7-siu 於 2009-2-3 15:50 發表
唉！唔系噤，邊有噤多好野俾我地食啞！

讲得俺。。都话呢D系社会问题嘛。。即系好复杂同埋解决吾到既问题咯。。

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原帖由 Haidada 於 2009-2-3 15:39 發表


农村就是这个观念。。。再过十年二十年大概还是差不多吧。。
我的 EX LB 就是为结婚而回家结婚的。拒呀妈也逼拒。。结果就后悔。。但已生了 ...

when they do not have choice or they do not know the world outside, they will stick to their husbands regardless how unhappy they are. Now, they know the way to get easy $$ and the temptation of separating from their poor husbands (in many cases, these guys do not have a job, or even have gambling/drug habit) and be back to the $$ world...

7-siu is right, if the men in China are mostly good men who love their wives, earn decent $ and treat their wives well, we would all eat shit!  We wish that day will not happen so soon..  (selfish thinking, hhaha)

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原帖由 denny2000 於 2009-2-3 17:22 發表
when they do not have choice or they do not know the world outside, they will stick to their husbands regardless how unhappy they are. Now, they know the way to get easy $$ and the temptation of s ...

social problem..and we are enjoying the good part of it...
中文是问题。。问题不一定是 PROBLEM。。

There are also 2 faces of 1 thing. To them is Bad, to us is Good.

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原帖由 7-siu 於 2009-2-3 17:45 發表
There are also 2 faces of 1 thing. To them is Bad, to us is Good.

同意。。。

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原帖由 par3 於 2007-4-16 02:57 發表
本來想去紅刀,但打去問有VIP卡o的房都分朝早同夜晚兩個價,大拿拿差六條o野,嬲嬲o地唔Q去,為o左賀鞏俐贏女主角,一於又去探探佢隻奶 ...

Spectacular!

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原帖由 7-siu 於 2009-2-3 17:45 發表
There are also 2 faces of 1 thing. To them is Bad, to us is Good.

Partly agreed.
Sometimes, maybe Win-Win situation.

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原帖由 Haidada 於 2009-2-3 12:59 發表


And marriage now in the rurul area of China is especially weird, I think:-
the marriage is still mainly thru brokerage...an interview and if okay for both sides they get married within a few mont ...

我同我大陸女友已近六年了，佢二十五歲，這兩年佢都有回鄉相睇，佢話自己年紀唔細係時候結緍了，但我係有家室之人，所佢無想過話可以同我結緍，而且佢話唔想拆散我既家庭，佢亦做得到(因我老虎曾打過好多電話比佢重閙佢，佢當無講出我地既野，重幫我講大話瞞住佢)，近五個月都無比家用佢，佢都係微言幾句，無点咋型。佢今年春節回鄉第二日已經相睇左個男仔29歲，佢有晚打左個短訊比我話要嫁了，當時我身心發麻，我知佢今次係別無選擇了，同佢倾電話時我地倆个都泣不成聲，佢重話就算嫁左比佢但個心仍然係我到，永遠最愛既就只有我，我就話既然你唔愛佢又嫁比佢，佢答話鄉下係敢架啦，結左先培养感情，再唔嫁就無人要既啦，佢家境中上有屋，有車，細佬大學畢業在上海做金融收入平均幾萬，佢亞媽重話她緍後比錢佢買屋，她說鄉下女人係敢樣相睇，拍幾個月拖就結婚生仔，21世紀都重有為結婚而結婚，真係好唔明白。

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原帖由 FKU 於 2009-2-4 18:58 發表


我同我大陸女友已近六年了，佢二十五歲，這兩年佢都有回鄉相睇，佢話自己年紀唔細係時候結緍了，但我係有家室之人，所佢無想過話可以同我結緍，而且佢話唔想拆散我既家庭，佢亦做得到(因我老虎曾打過好多電話比佢 ...

如果佢重繼續心甘情願跟住你做第三者，就輪到 Kmy 唔明白 lor ...

睇完之後更加肯定我唔可以同佢聯絡,因為感覺嘅嘢真係呃唔倒自己

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你过得好吗.有点挂念你.虽然没有什么可能了.但是我还是会记得你的.明天就是你过生日了.提前祝你生日快乐吧.
永远记得你...      
你偶尔会想起我吗.我真的很想知道
也许是我太天真了吧.把什么事都想得太简单了.
不管怎么样.我还是会衷心的祝福你.有的时候我会想.如果让我重新选择的话.我决对不会做出像现在这样的做法.那么我又会是什么样呢.人就是这样的.得到的不会去珍惜.当失去的时候往往才会去珍惜.失去的时候才知道自己想要的是什么.感情真的很奇妙.猜不透.我希望你过得比我幸福.
你可能是我心里面永远的秘密吧.

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收到我的祝福了吗.

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原帖由 FKU 於 2009-2-4 10:58 發表


我同我大陸女友已近六年了，佢二十五歲，這兩年佢都有回鄉相睇，佢話自己年紀唔細係時候結緍了，但我係有家室之人，所佢無想過話可以同我結緍，而且佢話唔想拆散我既家庭，佢亦做得到(因我老虎曾打過好多電話比佢 ...
....
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永遠最愛既就只有我，我就話既然你唔愛佢又嫁比佢，佢答話鄉下係敢架啦，結左先培养感情，再唔嫁就無人要既啦，佢家境中上有屋，有車，細佬大學畢業在上海做金融收入平均幾萬，佢亞媽重話她緍後比錢佢買屋，她說鄉下女人係敢樣相睇，拍幾個月拖就結婚生仔，21世紀都重有為結婚而結婚，真係好唔明白。

我都識得有一個深圳囡囡係咁。她今年 24 歲，是河南的。

今年農曆新年，她被家人召回老家相睇，如果男方唔太差，就會交往拍拖一個月左右，ok 就結婚。那位囡囡對我說，她被迫回家，如果真的結成婚，應該沒機會再出來打工了，生完仔之後，咁就一世。她對我說的時候，很無奈，好像回鄉送死一樣，相睇的男士她從未見過面的。

愛的彥語

人的一生，有兩種遺憾最折磨人：
一是得不到你心愛的人；
二是心愛的人得不到幸福。
During the whole life,
you will regret for two things:
one is that you don't get the one you love;
and the other is the one you love is not happy. 　

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原帖由 FKU 於 2009-2-4 18:58 發表

我同我大陸女友已近六年了，佢二十五歲，這兩年佢都有回鄉相睇，佢話自己年紀唔細係時候結緍了，但我係有家室之人，所佢無想過話可以同我結緍，而且佢話唔想拆散我既家庭，佢亦做得到(因我老虎曾打過好多電話比佢 ...

系大六就系甘既啦。。尤其是乡下， 大部分女女来的地方，到适婚年龄就相亲结婚生仔。。而拒地D适婚年龄是16、17.。。
我LB一个同学是17岁结婚，男的大她一岁。。现在小孩都三四岁呢。。

在乡下都市是父母在催着子女结婚的。。。

[ 本帖最後由 Haidada 於 2009-2-4 23:54 編輯 ]

婚姻制度是個很有趣的問題；
在選擇 愛情 和 family 上，國內女人還是傾向 family，
Kmy 覺得也許他們的選擇是對的，
他們仍對愛情懷念，對愛情念念不忘，只是時間問題，
Few years later, 他們總會忘記這些愛情，
As long as 他們快點做媽咪，早點投入角式，
The fairy tale soonest over.