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作者: cf4 時間: 2007-6-24 00:20 標題: 唔想無左老婆

Sample TextSample Text我跟我老婆相識十三年,結婚五年,我爛賭,經常為這原因常向老婆講大話,自己亦都因為咁欠下好多債,天綱灰灰,我的大話總會被老婆識破,但係每次都得到老婆原諒,因為每次我都向老婆承諾會去改,其實我又是在騙她了,最近我又被老婆發現我講大話,但她不動聲色,突然在二十日前老婆搬了很多自己東西回外家走了,現住外家,幾天前我們見面,老婆向我講離婚,我是看得出她其實不想這樣做,因為她言語間仲好關心我,及承認仲愛我,是真的,當然我亦不想離婚,因為我係好愛佢,好想永遠同佢一齊,我現在應該點做?求幫,意見.

作者: holunmoon 時間: 2007-6-24 01:08

Dear cf4,

I understand your situation. Here are seveal websites for you.

http://www.saynotogambling.net/front.phtml

http://www.gamblers-recovery.org/Link.htm

http://family.caritas.org.hk/ser/gamble.html

http://www.hkmenshealth.com/b5/mind/gambling.asp

Hum... Keep it up. You have to face the problem yourself and have "GUTS" to win this.

I SUPPORT U !!!!

作者: holunmoon 時間: 2007-6-24 01:17

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原帖由 holunmoon 於 2007-6-24 01:08 發表
Dear cf4,

I understand your situation. Here are seveal websites for you.

http://www.saynotogambling.net/front.phtml

http://www.gamblers-recovery.org/Link.htm

http://family.caritas.org.h ...

Be Honest, I know your wife is still very support u at this moment. Are you willing to ask your wife to help u out? The websites I gave u is to help to understand your gambling situation. Once you understand, you should call them for help. (Please don't feel shame about this. The REAL man is willing to take the challenge.). My friend, go read the links and understand yourself. Then try to tell your wife what are you going to do.

I suggest a movie to you. "Rocky 6". This is a great movie and inspire people. Rocky already 60 years old and he still goes for the fight. If he can face the challenge, so do you. You can win this, man.

Again, I SUPPORT U !!!! CHEER UP!!!!

作者: cf4 時間: 2007-6-24 17:08

唔該你,我會嘗試的.多謝你的支持!!

作者: allure 時間: 2007-6-24 19:23

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原帖由 cf4 於 2007-6-24 00:20 發表
Sample TextSample Text我跟我老婆相識十三年,結婚五年,我爛賭,經常為這原因常向老婆講大話,自己亦都因為咁欠下好多債,天綱灰灰,我的大話總會被老婆識破,但係每次都得到老婆原諒,因為每次我都向老婆承諾會去改,其 ...

其實, 佢仲肯比你搵到佢, 仲認好愛你... 而你又真係肯認真去面對自己病態賭博既事實&接受治療...  咁... 你都仲有機會求到佢既原諒既...
不過, 佢原諒你... 你又可唔可以就咁就原諒自己呢???
請你真係面對自己既『病』... 快d去治療喇...  係『賭』令你失去至愛... 你仲想唔想再『賭』呢?

希望你唔會好似我前夫咁... 祝你早日康復!

作者: cf4 時間: 2007-6-24 21:58

已不敢再賭了,我會尋求去醫病,但真係原諒唔到自己~

作者: allure 時間: 2007-6-24 22:20

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原帖由 cf4 於 2007-6-24 21:58 發表
已不敢再賭了,我會尋求去醫病,但真係原諒唔到自己~

唔係唔敢... 你應該『痛恨』賭博...
就係『賭博』害你無左個好愛你既老婆...
你應該憎佢... 唔係怕左佢... 仲要去同其他人講... 賭博有幾衰...
你如果真係由心憎恨賭博... 就一定唔會再去賭...

c兄... 你用行動去求你太太原諒你喇... 遠比用口講 or 用其他方法更有效...
仲有千祈唔好遲疑... 遲左老婆比人追左就做咩都無用...
立即放下僥倖之心...誠心悔改... 腳踏實地做人喇, c兄!!

[ 本帖最後由 allure 於 2007-6-24 22:27 編輯 ]

作者: kenny1234 時間: 2007-6-24 22:28

我覺得如果你仲唔改爛賭的習慣，不如就真的離婚吧，比個機會你老婆重獲新生！
唔好怪我太直接，我覺得做人要負責任，唔好因為你的壞習慣影響你愛的人一生幸福！
不過也希望你真的改得到，記住你可以騙到你身邊的人，但唔可以騙自己，做唔做得到你自己知！

作者: holunmoon 時間: 2007-6-24 22:35

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原帖由 cf4 於 2007-6-24 21:58 發表
已不敢再賭了,我會尋求去醫病,但真係原諒唔到自己~

Brother CF4,

I support u la. you know you start knowing your situation is already the 1st step to success. Keep it up.

Remember: Never too late to start.

Keep on. many people in the forum support u ga.

作者: cf4 時間: 2007-6-24 22:39

其實我好責怪自己,因為我咁樣仲攪到老婆身體唔好,睇過holunmoon給我建議,裹面有d過案像似我一樣,我考慮尋求專業意見幫我戒賭.

作者: holunmoon 時間: 2007-6-25 00:36

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原帖由 cf4 於 2007-6-24 22:39 發表
其實我好責怪自己,因為我咁樣仲攪到老婆身體唔好,睇過holunmoon給我建議,裹面有d過案像似我一樣,我考慮尋求專業意見幫我戒賭.

Yeah, man.
I am so glad to hear you said this

My dad who also a man who addict in gambling. Therefore, I don't want people to have the same path again. So, cheer up.

作者: holunmoon 時間: 2007-6-25 00:40

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原帖由 holunmoon 於 2007-6-25 00:36 發表

Yeah, man.
I am so glad to hear you said this
My dad who also a man who addict in gambling. Therefore, I don't want people to have the same path again. So, cheer up. :ver ...

Some more suggestion to you, CF4.

If you can stop for gambling for few times, save up the money and bought a little gift to your wife. Tell her that this is the little money you stop for gambling and save up to buy a gift for her. See what her reaction is... (But be honest to yourself and never try to gamble the money to buy the gift. Otherwise, the meaning is lost)

[ 本帖最後由 holunmoon 於 2007-6-25 00:48 編輯 ]

作者: cf4 時間: 2007-6-25 16:50

多謝moon兄提供idea

作者: cf4 時間: 2007-7-4 01:31

早前我已見了社工了,社工都想見我老婆作了解,我通知老婆她說會考慮,今日打比老婆得知她怕如果再同我一齊,怕有一天我再賭再借她不能再承受,她有很大壓力,因為以前已比好多機會我了.

作者: kenny01 時間: 2007-7-5 00:35

早知今日.......................................

作者: brasco 時間: 2007-7-5 01:59

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作者: brasco 時間: 2007-7-5 02:05

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作者: cf4 時間: 2007-7-5 02:21

我知她仍愛我,但她怕不能衝破心理障礙

作者: brasco 時間: 2007-7-5 02:26

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作者: HOMOONLA 時間: 2007-7-8 04:47

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原帖由 cf4 於 2007-7-4 01:31 發表
早前我已見了社工了,社工都想見我老婆作了解,我通知老婆她說會考慮,今日打比老婆得知她怕如果再同我一齊,怕有一天我再賭再借她不能再承受,她有很大壓力,因為以前已比好多機會我了.

brother CF4,

I have changed my account. some problem. Anyway, just tell her to go and visit the 社工. Just tell your wife, if she gave you many many chances, why not give you one last chance? (Maybe you think I am stupid but at least you should try). Cheer up. don't give up, man.

Many people like you do gambling, but how many like you have guts to go to see 社工. I cannot make sure you will success, but there are people succeed and you maybe one of them. remember this.

作者: HOMOONLA 時間: 2007-7-8 04:50

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原帖由 brasco 於 2007-7-5 02:05 發表

a very close friend of mine were doing such stupid thing!!....

Sorry to say this. you think this is stupid? I don't think so. At least this is what CF4 should really do at this moment. This is what I call to do something in order to prove you are serious. No offense. Please encourage CF4 together,

作者: cf4 時間: 2007-7-8 20:31

我想我肯定能夠戒賭,亦向財務申請貸款去冚晒d咭數,我老婆想到現在仲未應承我見社工的事,她經常有陰影仲同我講內心很灰,我好擔心無左個好老婆.

作者: kenny1234 時間: 2007-7-8 21:41

大丈夫，一人做事一人當，就算她真係離開你又怎樣？
其實，點解你唔想下，離開你佢可能生活更美好，更幸福呢？你咁想會唔會好過d呢？
愛一個人也要尊重對方的決定，不是單方面講你會改就要比機會你的，
我不是撥你冷水，只是我覺得做人要懂得尊重別人，何況她是你的老婆，
不如，你比心機好好的工作，儲點錢，比到d成績佢睇下，可能佢更加會回心轉意呢？
就算她真的要走，就好好祝福佢，做番一個真真正正的大丈夫，重新生活下去！

作者: HOMOONLA 時間: 2007-7-9 00:58

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原帖由 kenny1234 於 2007-7-8 21:41 發表
大丈夫，一人做事一人當，就算她真係離開你又怎樣？
其實，點解你唔想下，離開你佢可能生活更美好，更幸福呢？你咁想會唔會好過d呢？
愛一個人也要尊重對方的決定，不是單方面講你會改就要比機會你的，
我不是 ...

Hai..... To be honest, the situation is tough.
To brother CF4, first I want to ask you two questions:
(1) Ask yourself (from the deep deep bottom of heart), do you still love your wife and cannot lost her anymore? How about your wife? same?

(2) Part of agree with Kenny1234, the decision is made by your wife. It's her decision but as I said people always have choice. You have and your wife also has. Does your wife leaving you is the reason you want to quit gambling? If yes, then think positivly, all you do is to PROVE that you are serious and damn serious about the quiting. About the pressure thing of your wife, no one can help. only she can help by herself.

Really at this stage, I have nothing to say and I can see that you already start action.(IT"S REALLY GOOD!!!) My friend, keep it up. No matter what the result is. You tried damn hard and should feel no regret at all.

For the worse case, if your wife decided to leave (Just saying, eveything is possible). Then, you should regret and hate gambling because it breaks your family. At the same time, you should be pround of yourself that at least you tried hard for the relationship and start action to quit gambling.

The topest level of LOVE - is willing to be hurt. (INSIDE LOVE, there is no fear).
I can see how much your wife loves you even though her heart has been hurt a lot. NOW, IT"S TIME FOR YOU TO HEAL HER HEART. CHEER UP MAN!!!

作者: HOMOONLA 時間: 2007-7-9 01:01

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原帖由 cf4 於 2007-7-8 20:31 發表
我想我肯定能夠戒賭,亦向財務申請貸款去冚晒d咭數,我老婆想到現在仲未應承我見社工的事,她經常有陰影仲同我講內心很灰,我好擔心無左個好老婆.

MAN, Tell your wife to give you one more chance. At least to go to 見社工. no big deal, right?
BE positive.

作者: 不平凡人 時間: 2007-7-10 00:17

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原帖由 cf4 於 2007-7-8 12:31 發表
我想我肯定能夠戒賭,亦向財務申請貸款去冚晒d咭數,我老婆想到現在仲未應承我見社工的事,她經常有陰影仲同我講內心很灰,我好擔心無左個好老婆.

你肯定姐....即係你仲未成功啦????
到你可以幾年唔賭.先講你能夠戒賭好D囉.....

作者: brasco 時間: 2007-7-10 01:46

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作者: Rod 時間: 2007-7-10 09:21

Brother CF4, you are in a very difficult situation.  From another perspective, however, you must understand that once you did something wrong, you have to suffer the consequence.  That's why nowadays people are all talking about acting proactively (do not gamble in your case) as it is too late for sure after all these had happened.

So in my humble opinion, what you can do (and expect now) is to give your best shot to win back the trust of your wife.  Stop gambling is only just the beginning.  The more important and unfortunately the really tough part is how do you settle your loans as a result of all those years when you gamble like crazy.  There are other practical problem that other people simply can't give you any advice or help, and it is up to you and your wife to face them alone.

So don't think too much, but act.  Leave the rest to your destiny and hope for the best.  In the end if you wife leave you, you have already done your best, and you are merely paying back for what you did to her.

作者: HOMOONLA 時間: 2007-7-14 00:11

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原帖由 brasco 於 2007-7-10 01:46 發表

I'm afraid that u get me wrong, i was saying that a very close friend of mine had tried to get some money through galmbling in order buy her wife a gift.
sorry for my misleading!!

Oh... Very very sorry. My misunderstanding. Can you tell us about the result? Thank you.

作者: HOMOONLA 時間: 2007-7-14 00:14

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原帖由 Rod 於 2007-7-10 09:21 發表
Brother CF4, you are in a very difficult situation. From another perspective, however, you must understand that once you did something wrong, you have to suffer the consequence. That's why nowada ...

Yeah, Just act now. I think the consultant you saw can give you some advice

作者: brasco 時間: 2007-7-15 17:24

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作者: jimmyboy2102 時間: 2007-7-15 18:12

當一切都已失去的時候，「希望」仍在。

作者: powerhorse 時間: 2007-7-19 03:00

屌........唔係佢面前賭咪得

作者: rr2007 時間: 2007-8-3 14:41

Be honestly , I'm quite rich .
But I can tell you , I never see / hear anyone got rich from gambling . ( or maybe very very little has ) . Do you ?

So what do you think ?

I do gambling , but just only MahJong / horse racing/Mark-six ( little money ) .

作者: Sax 時間: 2007-8-3 17:19

巴打 cf4：

呢個係你洗心革面的最後機會，不只你的婚姻，更包括你的人生，好好珍惜，祝君好運！

我自己都好賭，仲瓣瓣o岩，但從未借過錢賭，所以 touch wood 輸唔死。贏大錢亦無我份，得個玩字。

你 manage 唔到賭癮，賭到借；賭到爆卡，就一定要戒絕，無其他選擇。

老婆方面，你既有信心佢仲愛你，你要做番 d 13 年前追人地時做過嘅野，送下花；接下放工.........希望有彎轉

而家始終都係錢銀問題，女人都哽得落，但如果被佢捉到你去滾（我見你嚮 sauna 版都有留下言

），火

上加油，死硬

！！！

作者: 9394_cc 時間: 2007-8-4 17:46

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原帖由 kenny1234 於 2007-6-24 22:28 發表
我覺得如果你仲唔改爛賭的習慣，不如就真的離婚吧，比個機會你老婆重獲新生！
唔好怪我太直接，我覺得做人要負責任，唔好因為你的壞習慣影響你愛的人一生幸福！
不過也希望你真的改得到，記住你可以騙到你身邊的 ...

很好的意見

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