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作者: fatboy33    時間: 2007-9-18 08:11     標題: 愛上一個不應去愛的人, 可以點?

I married my wife for 8 years. We got a common female friend. In last 6 months, I had a very close relationship with her. Finally, we kissed each other last night. We understood we love each other. She knew that I won’t leave my wife. But she just cannot bear to have such kind of affair with me. I felt I was so stupid. May be I should only keep my love in the bottom of my heart and keep our relationship in just very close friend. Sad….

I am going to hold back. I don’t want to hurt anyone. Just carry one more regrets in my life. Should be the best choice, isn’t it?
作者: agogock2118    時間: 2007-9-18 08:28

大家開始時協議好, 你敢唔敢博一舖
作者: fatboy33    時間: 2007-9-18 08:54

not about "唔敢博一舖" !!!

I am quite sure that she won't tell my wife.

But don't want to see her suffer in our relationship

She is not a kind of woman who can carry an affair with a married man.

[ 本帖最後由 fatboy33 於 2007-9-18 00:57 編輯 ]
作者: keve0223    時間: 2007-9-18 09:31

千萬唔好搏, 女人得左手就要你每天愛佢多一些, 開始時話唔計較, 耐左就180度轉變, 女人始終係愛妒忌既動物, 緊記!!!
作者: pentree21    時間: 2007-9-18 10:13

Yes, I am quite agree with this Brohter's comment. "千萬唔好搏, 女人得左手就要你每天愛佢多一些, 開始時話唔計較, 耐左就180度轉變, 女人始終係愛妒忌既動物, 緊記!", especially you already have the idea that this girl cannot or would not carry such triangle relationship. Just forget it. Let by gone, be by gone.
作者: dizzc    時間: 2007-9-18 10:20

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原帖由 pentree21 於 2007-9-18 10:13 發表
Yes, I am quite agree with this Brohter's comment. "千萬唔好搏, 女人得左手就要你每天愛佢多一些, 開始時話唔計較, 耐左就180度轉變, 女人始終係愛妒忌既動物, 緊記!", especially you already hav ...
雖然我未結婚, 不過呢野女人心態又真既, 到時仲煩
作者: SimonLee622    時間: 2007-9-18 10:54

合適的人, 永遠在不合適的時間和地方出現, 你選擇一次後, 可能又會有下一次的選擇等著你, 最重要是問一問自已, 你最想要的是甚麼?? 婚外情, 新生活, 又或是逃避生活..., 你有權兩個都愛, 但不能騙任何一方, 謊言再加上謊言, 最後會是無間痛苦...珍重呀!!

[ 本帖最後由 SimonLee622 於 2007-9-18 10:55 編輯 ]
作者: hungkm    時間: 2007-9-18 10:55

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原帖由 keve0223 於 2007-9-18 09:31 發表
千萬唔好搏, 女人得左手就要你每天愛佢多一些, 開始時話唔計較, 耐左就180度轉變, 女人始終係愛妒忌既動物, 緊記!!!
I totally agree with this brother, 而且紙係包唔住火既, dun hurt your wife coz she is innocence, right ?
作者: kathywonder    時間: 2007-9-18 10:56

Just wanna leave few words, and a woman waste her time and in love you with, dunno why you all say all women act devil like, and you, fatboy33, think 'bout what you did, you kinda married man like, and frankly so pity on the woman who's in love to you, if you love her really, just let her go and ease her pain. Thought she felt more painful when bein' with you, coz she's lovin' someone with no future.  Plus, does it fair for ur wife??  Think 'bout it!!
作者: mmr.ren    時間: 2007-9-18 11:02

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原帖由 fatboy33 於 2007-9-18 00:11 發表
I married my wife for 8 years. We got a common female friend. In last 6 months, I had a very close relationship with her. Finally, we kissed each other last night. We understood we love each other. ...
yes, stop it, that is.
作者: kathywonder    時間: 2007-9-18 11:23

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原帖由 fatboy33 於 2007-9-18 08:11 發表
I married my wife for 8 years. We got a common female friend. In last 6 months, I had a very close relationship with her. Finally, we kissed each other last night. We understood we love each other. ...
The only what you can do.  Stop doin' stupid thing, and think 'bout who else can be with you 'til the rest of ur life.  That's it!!
作者: dizzc    時間: 2007-9-18 11:56

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原帖由 kathywonder 於 2007-9-18 11:23 發表




The only what you can do.  Stop doin' stupid thing, and think 'bout who else can be with you 'til the rest of ur life.  That's it!!
講就易, 有時做就好難架
作者: 大冒險家    時間: 2007-9-18 12:13

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原帖由 kathywonder 於 2007-9-18 11:23 發表

The only what you can do.  Stop doin' stupid thing, and think 'bout who else can be with you 'til the rest of ur life.  That's it!!
冇計 ...K姐係過來人.....身同感受......一撻即着.....

都係果句: 好多時有好多野,...都係一念之間


作者: toyman    時間: 2007-9-18 12:46

我有一個多年同居女友, 幾年前識到另一個女仔, 佢知我有女朋友,
後來大家都發生關系而且係一齊, 當時日子一時好開心一時好難過,
我同女友分開左, 諗住做個清楚解決, 點知分開一段時間後, 舊女友屋企有事加上有病.......
良心好難過, 新女友都建議我去關心前女友, 基於良心同責任, 同前女友復合,
新女友好無奈咁同我分開............

同新女友分開左半年左右先知道新女友正在辦離婚!!! (原來同我一齊果陣只係分居),
大家再次保持聯絡, 但再無發生關系, 大家都好坦白講出知道愛對方,
可惜時間上偏偏錯到不得了.......好無奈。

到最近一年, 前新女友已經同另一個男人同居, 我依然同前舊女友同局,
大家保持聯絡而且有見面, 不過無發生關系, 只係見面食飯傾計........
手都唔會拖........ 我會坦白講好掛住佢, 佢有乜事都一樣 update 比我知,
心態上跟以前一齊時無乜分別, 不過真係變到好拍拉圖式戀愛。

人生就係咁多無奈, 對住而家女友, 好多人話我心靈出軌, 但事實上我又無做咩錯事,
當中開心唔好開心無人會明白。 有人會話唔抵可憐, 自討苦吃......
但事實上好多事要發生, 無人可以制止, 只能發生後睇下點去處理,
我同前新女友講起, 大家都有一個共識同體會,
原來兩個人真正既愛, 裡面唔會有愁恨, 佢無嬲過我當時有前女友,
無嬲過我同前女友分開後又再復合, 我亦無介意過佢呃過我,
我而家亦無能力去介意佢同另一個男人同居........

分開左咁多年, 我依然愛佢, 但係愛真係唔係大晒, 好多事情都改變唔到,
我只知道發生過就發生過, 我愛佢亦可以坦白話佢知就夠。

到而家我都唔明白乜野人應該愛上或者不應愛上,
就對如乜野人應該意外死或者唔應該意外死。
作者: SimonLee622    時間: 2007-9-18 13:38

問世間情是何物? 直教人生死相許...

[ 本帖最後由 SimonLee622 於 2007-9-18 15:22 編輯 ]
作者: hungkm    時間: 2007-9-18 15:00

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原帖由 kathywonder 於 2007-9-18 10:56 發表
Just wanna leave few words, and a woman waste her time and in love you with, dunno why you all say all women act devil like, and you, fatboy33, think 'bout what you did, you kinda married man like, ...
Kat 姐,

我一百巴仙認同你的見解

作者: R-ng    時間: 2007-9-18 17:46

To: toyman & fatboy33

你所講既野我好有同感, 你話
"到而家我都唔明白乜野人應該愛上或者不應愛上,
就對如乜野人應該意外死或者唔應該意外死。 "

我相信你唔係唔明白 你意思係好難判斷愛既錯與對
要用現今社會道德標準來衡量 愛既錯與對
fatboy33 既愛 應該 fail 多過 pass

但係愛係唔係一定要判斷錯與對 或者會唔會有其他量度方法呢?
我諗每個人唔同時段都有唔同既 standard

人生苦短 長既可以玩九十幾年 短既六十或者更短
我既人生已經玩左超過大半啦 層經富貴 亦試過貧窮
有過既女人都唔小(以上過床計) 能有愛既感覺只有兩個
其中有個係我前妻 佢係我最風光最有錢既時候離開我
當然比佢既膳養費都唔小 拍拖結婚既時候梗係開心 愛即係對啦
離婚唔開心重要比錢佢 呢段愛咁痛苦對我黎講梗係錯啦

到我步入窮困既時候 佢主動搵我 唔係想睇下我有幾節墜
佢只係想幫我 驚我真係無飯開 想比番d錢我 我當然無要到啦
但我就好開心 好安慰 咁究竟呢段愛係錯定對呢?
就連我自己都唔知 亦唔想 find out

我做左幾十年人 好多野精確計算 最後結果都係一敗塗地
既然係咁不如相信自己既感覺 喜歡便去愛
當然一切後果你要承擔得起先得啦
作者: tailawyau    時間: 2007-9-18 21:51

唉, 好老土咁講句
做人, 順其自然啦
邊度有得諗咁多計咁多丫

學 R-ng 兄講
有時相信一下自己感覺又何妨呢

講真, 你一生有過幾多女人
但有幾多你真係講得上愛丫

兄弟, good luck
作者: maomao1hk    時間: 2007-9-18 22:28

To: fatboy33

我都係過來人, 已婚亦曾經試過同已分居既同事有過一段情. 我地有發生過關係, 相方都係enjoy既. 當時大家都好投入...但係唔係好多女人會可以長時間同別人分享佢既另一半.  關係維持左一年多, 由於客觀環境既改善, 我地已經無再聯絡.  我有時會回味以前既荒唐; 但係我更愛而家擁有既一切. 我唔會叫您繼續去愛定唔好再去愛 - 因為除左您自己, 係唔會有人可以決定您既事! 不過, 作為一個過來人, 我只想提您一句: 無論您做乜決定都好, 千萬唔好後悔! 因為人生真係無take two 架!
作者: skyshooternew    時間: 2007-9-18 23:20

Understanding that there are too many cultural restriction on free love (with more than one person at a time), we still have to trust our instinct of love.  When the true love comes, don't try to resist because we are all human.  Resisting love is against our nature.

However, how to deal with unpleasant consequence is another matter.  That requires high EQ.
作者: 成熟溫柔男士    時間: 2007-9-19 01:03

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原帖由 toyman 於 2007-9-18 04:46 發表
我有一個多年同居女友, 幾年前識到另一個女仔, 佢知我有女朋友,
後來大家都發生關系而且係一齊, 當時日子一時好開心一時好難過,
我同女友分開左, 諗住做個清楚解決, 點知分開一段時間後, 舊女友屋企有事加上有病 ...
Toyman 兄 o既遭遇可見兄台很理智亦很重感情! 真係難能可貴!        
作者: chanpokuen    時間: 2007-9-19 02:16

相逢恨晚,我都遇過,最終都係理智戰勝感情,老婆同我十幾年,
仔女開始大啦,我玩唔起,亦唔想玩婚外情,冇法子!人生就係好
多無奈!

多年前,我有位舊同事,玩到過曬火,佢老婆一時睇唔開,係個女
面前跳左落街.....................

唔好玩啦!浪子回頭啦!
作者: fatboy33    時間: 2007-9-19 02:25

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原帖由 toyman 於 2007-9-18 04:46 發表
我有一個多年同居女友, 幾年前識到另一個女仔, 佢知我有女朋友,
後來大家都發生關系而且係一齊, 當時日子一時好開心一時好難過,
我同女友分開左, 諗住做個清楚解決, 點知分開一段時間後, 舊女友屋企有事加上有病 ...
Toyman, thanks for your sharing.

I had lunch with her today in a park. I cannot stopped myself keep staring at her smiling face. We are kind of agreed to maintain our relationship like what you did with your ex new gf "拍拉圖式戀愛"

That's it. The end of story... But just cannot get rid of all kinds of emotion I had right now. Fine, just let them be there for long and live without soul for a while. Things will getting better soon. I knew how to manage it.
作者: fatboy33    時間: 2007-9-19 02:35

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原帖由 R-ng 於 2007-9-18 09:46 發表
To: toyman & fatboy33

你所講既野我好有同感, 你話
"到而家我都唔明白乜野人應該愛上或者不應愛上,
就對如乜野人應該意外死或者唔應該意外死。 "

我相信你唔係唔明白 你意思係好難判斷愛 ...
"當然一切後果你要承擔得起先得啦〞

That's made me much clear about what should I do. Thanks

My wife is a really really good wife, I don't think I can find someone better then her. I mean as a wife but not a lover. Also there is a long story behind us and something is missing in our marriage. Which I don't have and cannot get it in our relationship. I am keep working it out with my wife. but very very slow in progress.
作者: fatboy33    時間: 2007-9-19 02:37

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原帖由 tailawyau 於 2007-9-18 13:51 發表
唉, 好老土咁講句
做人, 順其自然啦
邊度有得諗咁多計咁多丫

學 R-ng 兄講
有時相信一下自己感覺又何妨呢

講真, 你一生有過幾多女人
但有幾多你真係講得上愛丫

兄弟, good luck
順其自然, I will take that suggestion. thanks a lot.
作者: fatboy33    時間: 2007-9-19 02:46

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原帖由 maomao1hk 於 2007-9-18 14:28 發表
To: fatboy33

我都係過來人, 已婚亦曾經試過同已分居既同事有過一段情. 我地有發生過關係, 相方都係enjoy既. 當時大家都好投入...但係唔係好多女人會可以長時間同別人分享佢既另一半.  關係維持左一年多, 由於 ...
yep, you pass situation is the most ideal case. you are lucky man.

not matter what I do, there are regretting. to me, just to avoid having too much regrets.

thanks.
作者: hkman1109    時間: 2007-9-19 10:29

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原帖由 fatboy33 於 2007-9-19 02:46 發表


yep, you pass situation is the most ideal case. you are lucky man.

not matter what I do, there are regretting. to me, just to avoid having too much regrets.

thanks.
brother, i agree that u'd better keep ur relationship with the other girl as just close friends.  i think u know what the pros and cons are and u should be able to make the right choice.
作者: toyman    時間: 2007-9-19 10:53

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原帖由 R-ng 於 2007-9-18 17:46 發表
To: toyman & fatboy33

你所講既野我好有同感, 你話
"到而家我都唔明白乜野人應該愛上或者不應愛上,
就對如乜野人應該意外死或者唔應該意外死。 "

我相信你唔係唔明白 你意思係好難判斷愛 ...
好多謝你既回應!!! 我真係好想講句愛係無對錯....不過怕太留於表面,
講到好空泛咁就無意思, 我亦好認同有 d 弟兄講, 承擔得起就放膽去愛,
今次呢個 topic 都可算 07 代表作之一, 比人睇到性版弟兄唔係只有狼狗表面,
仲有好多都有良心一面, 起碼大部份都好色而無膽,
有膽者之後又有內疚.........................

怕痕怕痛又想追求新鮮剌激.......我相信大部份男人都一樣。
作者: toyman    時間: 2007-9-19 10:56

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原帖由 成熟溫柔男士 於 2007-9-19 01:03 發表

Toyman 兄 o既遭遇可見兄台很理智亦很重感情! 真係難能可貴!        
多謝~ 當時唔係難能可貴, 可能算係為世所迫..........
好多野迫到埋身, 表面上既選擇其實內裡邊有得揀..........唉~~~
作者: fatboy33    時間: 2007-10-2 16:18

brother, I updated the post in here

http://forum.timway.com/f/thread-130586-1-1.html
作者: brother4    時間: 2007-10-3 05:59     標題: 回復 #4 keve0223 的帖子

I fully agree with u!  Because I have the same situation like that before!
作者: ericwong4362    時間: 2007-10-4 00:23

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原帖由 toyman 於 2007-9-18 12:46 發表
我有一個多年同居女友, 幾年前識到另一個女仔, 佢知我有女朋友,
後來大家都發生關系而且係一齊, 當時日子一時好開心一時好難過,
我同女友分開左, 諗住做個清楚解決, 點知分開一段時間後, 舊女友屋企有事加上有病 ...
Good writing...
I gonna to CRY.....

作者: sakhee1973    時間: 2007-10-6 13:40     標題: uuuuuuuuuuuuu

The facebook, very funny, see a lot of beautiful faces, better try...Yeah
作者: macau998    時間: 2007-10-22 18:43

i think just being able to know she is living happily is more important then "own" it for yourself... you can't keep loving another one when they come...




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