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作者: tita998 時間: 2007-4-13 13:18 標題: 穩穩陣陣的愛情

廿七歲的典型乖乖女對某種職業的男人頗有戒心，連在這一行工作的朋友，也說他們之間難有「好男人」。

此刻她正被一個做「這一行」的男人追求，她在電郵中問我，某種行業的男人是否多數是壞男人，令太乖太斯文的她容易受傷。

我不是說那一行，因爲這不是重點。

不得不承認工作環境對人的價值觀有一定影響，但這對戀愛沒有多大關係。

好男人一街都是，不見得有很多女人喜歡。

對愛情專一，今天來說，已不是一個男人的賣點。我認識一個從一而終的男人，在廿年前一次戀愛失敗後，一直無法忘記那個只跟他拍過一個月拖的女人，此後沒有戀愛過。

女人知道有他這個好男人，不只沒有稱許，還說：「有冇搞錯，他是不是傻的？」

我也認識一些年輕時很單純的好男人，但今天又賭又嫖，根本無法想象以前的他與今天的是同一個人。

壞男人當然更多，反而不少是年輕時什麽都玩過，玩厭之後回歸平淡，變了個一等一的好男人。

今天好，不等於明天依然會好。今天壞，明天會否繼續壞，天曉得。

愛情從來都是一場賭博，怕受傷的，會更易受傷，最可憐是栽在一個自己不太喜歡的男人手上。要戀愛就找一個自己真正喜歡的人，輸了也值得，至少跟他相愛過。

算你眼光好，真的找到一個不是太喜歡，但今生今世不會背叛你的男人，會開心嗎？

真相是世上沒有所謂穩穩陣陣的愛情。

作者: usnameless 時間: 2007-4-14 06:39

世上那有所謂"穩陣"的東西, 不要自欺欺人.

作者: ampm 時間: 2007-4-14 11:42

可能繫鰳......^_^

作者: allure 時間: 2007-4-14 16:09

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原帖由 tita998 於 2007-4-13 13:18 發表
愛情從來都是一場賭博，怕受傷的，會更易受傷，最可憐是栽在一個自己不太喜歡的男人手上。要戀愛就找一個自己真正喜歡的人，輸了也值得，至少跟他相愛過。

算你眼光好，真的找到一個不是太喜歡，但今生今世不會背叛你的男人，會開心嗎？

非常認同...

作者: 578jkk 時間: 2007-4-22 00:20

很不错吧看个人的感觉了

作者: 麥甩咯 時間: 2007-4-22 05:48

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原帖由 tita998 於 2007-4-13 13:18 發表
愛情從來都是一場賭博，怕受傷的，會更易受傷，最可憐是栽在一個自己不太喜歡的男人手上。要戀愛就找一個自己真正喜歡的人，輸了也值得，至少跟他相愛過。

非常認同！

作者: Nacol001 時間: 2007-4-29 19:01

What I suggest is to set yourself free to love. It is need not to impose any inhibition in it. You will never achieve anything if you afraid to be defeated. That is, dear all, be brave.

Nacol

作者: Nobody169 時間: 2007-5-1 12:26

Absolutely agree with you. But girls nowadays are more looking for a stable a guy who has no bargining
power. For example, not handsome, always stay at home. They already forget what is love. Perhaps they are not brave enough to go with a excellent guy. I have got many friends that their CV and
apparence are excellent. However, everytime they chase girls, they will be rejected. When I listened to
what they told me, it was really surprise. Now many of them become a play boy and some of them
become gay. Actually from brothers point of view, who can they blame? Definitely the girls. I believe
nobody is a playboy when they were born. I believe they had suffered alot of love pain. They feel
disapppointed to girls already. So. perhaps, next time when we hear about girls talking how guys
nowadays are shit. In my opinion, they should first of all think about what they did to guys.

作者: fuckallday 時間: 2007-5-11 05:49

life is full of uncertainties and love is never rational. One can always think of thousands of reasons after an unsuccessful love adventure. Nonetheless, when one was in love with the other party, one wouldn't be able to analyze that carefully. Plus, don't we all agree that to love somebody, we should love not only their good points, but also their bad ahabits as well?
In my opinion, one can't know for sure if the relationship that one is going into is really stable 穩陣" or not. Love is blind, right?
Even if you are very careful, if you believe in fate, you may fall in love with the most impossible person and you can't help it.

作者: Erin 時間: 2007-5-11 08:13

要戀愛就找一個自己真正喜歡的人，輸了也值得，至少跟他相愛過。

作者: 細摩 時間: 2007-5-11 11:01

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原帖由 tita998 於 2007-4-13 13:18 發表
廿七歲的典型乖乖女對某種職業的男人頗有戒心，連在這一行工作的朋友，也說他們之間難有「好男人」。

此刻她正被一個做「這一行」的男人追求，她在電郵中問我，某種行業的男人是否多數是壞男人，令太乖太斯文的 ...

呢味野只岩女人, 男人反而...

作者: kenny01 時間: 2007-5-11 12:36

[我也認識一些年輕時很單純的好男人，但今天又賭又嫖，根本無法想象以前的他與今天的是同一個人。]

又賭又嫖....不可以單純嗎....

難道單純等於....白痴

作者: FeiJai 時間: 2007-5-11 15:03

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原帖由 tita998 於 2007-4-13 05:18 發表
算你眼光好，真的找到一個不是太喜歡，但今生今世不會背叛你的男人，會開心嗎？

真有趣的一篇文章。哈哈

我的問題:

一、是甚麼令你開心???

相信和這個男人結合不是為了他不會背叛吧?!

二、是甚麼令你和一個不太喜歡的男人結合?! 而結合後又不肯定會否開心?!! 真是不明白這是甚麼回事。

三、結合時不太喜歡﹐過了一生後還不太喜歡?! 如果真是這樣﹐是這個男人有問題﹐還是…

作者: fuckallday 時間: 2007-5-13 05:48

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原帖由 tita998 於 2007-4-13 13:18 發表
愛情從來都是一場賭博，怕受傷的，會更易受傷，最可憐是栽在一個自己不太喜歡的男人手上。要戀愛就找一個自己真正喜歡的人，輸了也值得，至少跟他相愛過。

I don't understand what that means and I don't think love is a gamble.

How can one develop a relationship with someonw whom one doesn't love. How can one measure the extent of love so that one can say one doesn't love him that much?

Love is not about win or lose. If you hold such attitude, then your lover is your competitor and you would only think of getting an upper hand on him. Winning or losing means what? To me, an unsuccessful love affair means losing for both parties (or more parties if there are 3 or 4 people involved).

When one is in love, one won't care about losing or winning, and won't care about how much one should should put into the relationship and how much one could get back. If you are not 100% involved in the love affair, then the relationship is not true love.

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