messenger, seems you've been puzzled by this issue for quite a long time.

i agree with you, "人的確有很多個面，亦可分很多partitions.
視乎怎樣可以妥善去處理".  however, ask yourself what's your priority?

well, let's think deeply.  we both contradict.
human being, or men, have emotions.  you have sex emotion, and you go and find a woman to fuck.  you're saying don't put too much emotion onto these girls.  however, you have emotion to go fucking but have no emotion on the girls you fuck, then how can you become hard on?  if you're hard enough to fuck, which means something from the girls attract you, and you're gonna remember it for some time.  then it might change to.......a greater emotion, or a longer term of emotion......damn, it's complicated.

i think, there are two ways to retain your family but also go out to fuck:
1. get hurt.  hurt by some girls, being cheated with a lot of money, making you feel regret.
2. don't go out playing.