Hi Guys and Girls,
It has been puzzling for a long long time. Probably like a lot of people, I'm approaching 30 but am in a long term relationship with this gf of mine whom I've been with since uni. I would call myself a very responsible person, both in terms of work, to friends/families and to my gf. But the love has, um.... died quite long ago. What is keep us going is that strong sense of responsibility. Sometimes I meet other girls whom I like very much. But I always hold myself back because of her. I've been getting a lot of pressure from my parents to get married. But my gut feeling is that it won't work out. Should I just end this? or just marry this person I've been with for a long time because this is the "right thing to do". I always hear from old married couples that the love has long gone between them, and they have entered this next phase called "companionship" stage. What the fuck ?!?!
Then why the fuck do we get married then ? Just to have a "friend"? I think my male friends understand me more and they are more fun to be with. Of course I like women, but it's the sex and the love that keep us together, not just the so called "companion-fucking-ship". When I"m bored I could hit the pub with a few of my buddies. Just "blow-water", you know. Watch the game, have a Bud. .... what a life! In case you are wondering , most of my married male friends are NOT exactly "happily ever after" like what they say in the fairy-tales.
Any feedback from you brothers and sisters would be nice.
Cheers.
