Carmanlam bro: I think talking abt VAS and even elaborating on it as long not HJ is fine. Some ppl (like whitekitty) might draw the line way lower at like 'vas' and nothing. A difference in opinion on where to draw the line is fine. However, when u talk abt nipple sucking and playing with dick (did you say using mouth too?) ... that is way over the line la ...... talking abt territory which even HJ saunas not always provide ...
Anyways, i agree wiht you on sharing abt VAS. Some high profile brothers are sometimes over-sensitive with sharing information .. perhaps they have too much information so no need to share. If so perhaps they can have an email chain which they share with their own friends. But this time, the tongue work comment is really over the line i think ...