From your other post, I gather that your husband probably stays with you due to responsibility instead of love. And he doesn't want to hide it from you. It probably because you are so devoted to him. Maybe that's why he wants you to face the reality.

I know, I know, the old Chines saying "Better teah someone to hit the kids instead of advising them to divorce". Yet, it is so obvious in your case that he doesn't love you any more.

if you read her other post on "老公有另的女人 ", then you may have different view. Anyway, if unhappybear wishes to keep her husband on her side even though the relationship is more like a care-taker and a dependent instead of two lovers, then maintaining the current status quo may be the way to go. Nonetheless, I think it won't last long , or else, unhappybear won't be airing her grievances here.

dear lu

I can see your point and thinking. Nonetheless, from the other post, her husband had another home (wife and baby) in Shenzhen. That tells how serious the relationship has worsened. If it is just a one-time or infrequent affairs, trying to mend the relationship may work. In this event, I doubt it.

As a man, I suppose her husband must have make up his mind pretty clearly to end his relationship with unhappybear. Or else, he won't disclose so much to her. I think it is due to unhappybear's deep affection for her husband which keeps her husband from taking the last step of divorcing. Still, a relationship based on pity is not healthy. Don't you think so?