I don't know if you should hold back. In any event, you are hurting the third person and yourself, maybe your wife as well. Be true to yourself, will it be the same if you stick with your wife? Are you treating the third person as a gf only? Are you prepared to marry her and start a family with her?

I can see that you are a responsible person as you consider the feeling of your wife, etc. Nonetheless, a married relationship based purely on responsibility and without love won't last long or won't have a happy ending.

Dear unhappy bear

I understand what you feel in the situation that you have undergone. However, what we have been idscussed here applies to both men and women. These days, not only men may get attracted by a third person but women as well. Of course, there are lots of things involved in a marriage relationship, not only love, but also commitment, responsibility, etc. However, if keeping a marriage relationship may hurt all three parties involved, what is your advice to handle such a situation?

I don't know if many others share the same feeling as you but I am definitely one of them. I am in a similar situation as you and also 阿偉 in the story. While passionate love may not continue to exist in my marriage, there are understanding and other feelings towards my wife in the relationship. Therefore, though I feel empty at times in my heart, I've tried to fill it with other activities, like community work, reading, daydreaming, etc.