i have almost the same when i was in shanhai, staying with a local who i first met her in the night club. when i revisted shanghai, she has quit and work as an ol. since i am alone and we went out together and sometime she stay in my apartment overnight. she knew that i was married and got girl friends in hk. during weekend i bring her along to visit some other places near shanghai, i.e. hangzhou for the weekend.
time flies and i need to leave shanghai and when i returned to hk, she told me that she got another taiwanese man as her new boyfirend. i can understand her income is not enough to support her living since i used to give her some money when i was in shanghai.
last thing she want me to give her a few ten thousand to aid her father's business which i rejected and relationship comes to an end.
women in china cannot make too much and sometimes need to rely on her boyfriend, till now i will rather pay and go, dont want to get involved in love affairs since i know that i can't afford to play this game since i might 'boat sinking'.