What do you expect them to do ?  
Tell you that she just wants to make money out of you ? Or she's afraid that she will fall in love with you if she keeps seeing you .
It's a very common practice for nc girls to stay away from those whom they don't know how to deal with yet. Don't forget there may be over a dozen of "YOU" whom she has met in NC that she needs to figure out what, how and why.....

If you really want to play this game, just keep calling , sms and looking for them  .....

[ 本帖最後由 foresthill 於 2009-12-11 13:25 編輯 ]

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原帖由 civilian 於 2009-12-13 01:15 發表
Thanks bros for your comments and guidance. Need your advice here. I am visiting the NC (where i met the second girl) next week. I am sure I will get over her eventually but for now I still think abou ...

You don't need to think too much, just set a budget for yourself with this girl NOW and DO NOT spend more than this limit no matter what happens ( or seems to happen)  to her .

Then , you only need to follow your heart ....  if calling or meeting her is happy, do it .... if you want to make love with her , tell her........  人生有幾多個十年 ?

刘家昌说：“除了爱情，人生还有什么？人生根本就是爱情嘛。”

I agree very much !

The "love" feeling may be caused by hormones and it's quite difficult to ignore it once it's there . However, it only lasts a couple of months so time will cool everything down eventually . As long as we can be firm in holding our wallets and arrange the activities properly in order not to affect our families , let's  experience it... love is fun .  One good thing to have affair in NC is that it's easier for both of you to exit at the end because YOU BOTH WERE MET IN NC .... a place of buy and sell at the very beginning !  You don't owe her and she doesn't owe you , fair enough ?

'Life is short. Have an affair."

That's the slogan of the Ashley Madison dating service, a website for people who want to cheat on their partners.

Besides how long we have been to NC , one important factor in determining our response and feelings in NC affairs is our ages .

In my 20's and 30's , I insisted in paying to the NC girls no matter what they said. I would tell them not to love me for the sake of both of us because it is only an illusion .  In reality, how would I take a NC girl out for movie or a decent dinner..... no way !   ....That's what I thought and did at that time!

But when it comes to 40's......   it's different  .......   

You may not understand if you are still young , but you will know one day