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原帖由 麻辣豆腐 於 2011-10-9 13:36 發表
If I may, I think this example illustrates something we all need to be very careful of, and needs to be emphasized. .
So you pick on this example which I took the inirtiative to offer myself, when you (may have wrongly)
suspected me of revealing someone' s bday without gettig her prior consent.
In theory bgs may join a sauna without prior awareness and mental preparedness that her information may be revealed online---this is a point that I myself have raised somewhere before in this thread. On the other hand one can counter that the PRs also reveal certain personal information (including native town, approximate age) to guests before they meet their bgs in the massage room. On a few occasions when I mention to newly-acquainted bgs what I have heard about them from PRs, some express interest or acknowledgement and others mild surprise, but very seldom do I receive a resentful response. Advocates of total exclusion of personal information of bgs in forums, like you, could then counter that paying guests in saunas have the privilege of information inputs from PRs but general netizens in the cyberspace would not need to pay for information (which incidentally would be unfair). And when PRs reveal more specific info like native town or approximate age, they mostly do that to familiar guests, not to any stranger.
All these arguments on either side, I have thought out long before.
But back to the reality of most forums----in the current three major Chinese forums in Hong Kong that concern massage parlours, members have always felt free to reveal a certain amount of info about bgs, even if little. In most cases they are thoughtful enough to exclude more sensitive info like marital/relationship status, family situation, etc. But things like leaving a workplace and joining another is often freely said. In certain if not many or most cases, they already have the prior approval or tacit agreement of bgs involved. In practice, of course there is no way one can ascertain whether they have that approval or agreement. We have always relied on members' mutual caution, their own discretion and being discreet, previous experience, and the forum master's intervention if necessary, to draw a line between sensitive and less sensitive information. To totally exclude personal information in forums, even if a noble idea, would be very hard to implement as members have always enjoyed a certain liberty (even if there are abuses from time to time) and it would be very difficult to get them to accept such a ban.
Lastly, minor things, though regrettable, need not automatically be overstated as a harm. When members take back what they say, in many cases they have the continued understanding of the bgs involved and the friendship goes on. But of course, sometimes people could be so stubborn or thoughtless that they fail to take any action in time, which disappoints bgs.
Sometimes bgs feel discomfort not because what is said about her could jeopardise her, but rather certain non-writing forum members report to them the post not carefully enough, so that there is some misunderstanding when the bg would not go to the forum to look up things for herself. Last year, a member in this thread reported his experience of spa in the jacuzzi when he had to undress and get naked with only underpants on. This was reported to the beautician involved, but it seemed that the phrase 'with underpants' on was left out. The beautician was alarmed, I intervened and told her about that phrase, and all the same that member modified his post to reassure her.
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