hi bros, just to share some recent experiences here. i started clubbing about 6 months ago. met this 19 yr old nice goldfish girl in a TST NC. interestingly we communicated very well considering i am much older than her. we had good times-dinner, sms, etc. of course i dream about making out with her but i never asked for it. needless to say i fell for her and she kinda started to accept me in small steps. she never asked me for money but like many kind brothers i did give her pocket money every now and then. however, at one point in time, she had some personal problems which bothered her a lot. all of a sudden she disappeared and i never heard back from her. of course i still think about her but there is nothing i can do really.  chapter closed.

my buddies say it is a good lesson learned-we should hold back our feelings and never play it seriously in NC.

ok, met another nice girl in a HK NC last week. she came out for dinner and we had a good time. then i sent her caring sms and tried to arrange for the next dinner this week. all of a sudden she never takes my calls or response to sms anymore.

For both cases I never acted like a bad guy or took advantage. just behaved like a normal guy appreciating the girls like a friend. I am just amazed how they can switch off just like that. i am starting to think not going to NC anymore as this is not my game...i am breaking the rules, again and again

Thanks bros for your comments and guidance. Need your advice here. I am visiting the NC (where i met the second girl) next week. I am sure I will get over her eventually but for now I still think about her a little. So what would you do if you were me:

1) ask for her to sit me again. pretend nothing happened. jus enjoy there, only there.
2) forget about her and ask for another one. but what's the point going if i dont get to sit with someone i like??

monster cHing, i m middle aged but clubbing experience is only 6 months. my experienced friends did explain to me all the rules about this game but i guess learning by mistake is one way to become an old hand.

Just a quick update about the second girl (who never returned call last week). I called the NC manager yesterday afternoon asking her to get that girl to work in the evening as I would be there. Before the manager got back to me, the girl finally called me (nasty surprise!). Well, all she wanted to verify was whether it was me who asked for her. She could not come yesterday and said call her for dinner next week. I still cannot 'feel' her.
I just want to verify with cHings she is purely talking business.

Brother hkcncj, I think there are many more bros like us out there so experience sharing will help those of us who are 'trapped' at times.
Of course, like other cHing said, we are not in NC to find true love or wife. '拍拖' feel is what we are after, right.
One of my friends went to a NC for the first time last month, met this girl (first day at work), and now they are like kinda 拍拖 now. Envy him?