If nobody mention, I'll never know Kathy posted threads in adult sex page. I only know she is a good mother who's so care, sacrifice and love of her kids.

I have no intention to browse what Kathy posted in the other threads. It's meaningless to me.

Meme, just want to ask you, are you assessing Kathy's personality by watching at what's she's been written on the other page?

You may say, if a kid's parents are sacred, he'll have a greater chance to become sacred, but still not 100% right. If a kids parent is open, it doesn't mean that he'll be a 'ham sup' person when he grows up.

Also, a 'ham sup' teacher may not mean he is a bad teacher. I think a good teacher, from my philosophy, is a person who can impact the students with correct attitudes and values in their life. There should not be correlations between a teachers performance and effectiveness with his private life.

Nowadays, a teacher should say to the student, play safe and use condom instead of, don't have sex until you are married. You may think I'm exaggerating, but that's real thing some students in Hk nowadays experience.

What should be a good teacher and good parents is a matter of fact. But one point is, what you tell them should be align with the real world, how to survive independently and contribute to the world. Don't teach them something unrealistic.

Sorry for my long message and poor english.

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原帖由 meme1980 於 2007-7-19 21:13 發表
今日天氣真係好熱, 很少機會進入這個聊天室了, 因為小朋友一放暑假, 做家長的都會花好多時間去注意小孩的假期活動. 首先, 係呢度要恭喜Kathy先, 要結婚了, (你在下面已經寫左要結婚的嘛!! ) 恭喜你!!  祝你白頭偕 ...

If all the parents treat their kid just like you do, there will be no problem children / students. Having communication between kids and their parents is the most critical factor affecting their growing up. An informal survey to some teenager about what tis the most important message they want to bring to their parents, surprisingly, over 50% of that say they want to have meals and talk with their parent during the meals. In today's world, it's not uncommon that kids cannot meet their parent even once a week because their parents need to work till so late in the evening. By the time they arrive home, their kids have already gone to bed.

Meme, it is no doubt that you are a hard working teacher and a good mother. I want to point out that a good teacher, besides hard working, should also care the students, commuicate with them effectively just like you care you kid. Not many people can change a person's value and attitude, but a good teacher can do it. Apologise if I intrude your intrinsic value, however, this forum is a place of exchanging opinion. Hope can discuss with you further.

[ 本帖最後由 mark+gor 於 2007-7-19 22:45 編輯 ]

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原帖由 kathywonder 於 2007-7-19 19:55 發表
Anyway!!  Tks ur words and I know you all just wanna tell a truth here, thought Meme's not kinda person with bad-hearted, on the other way, maybe what I say, we met for each other by misunderstandi ...

Nice to meet you here and congratulations.
Bringing up a kid is not easy, especially for your case of a single mother. Also, love to here that your kid gets on well with your 'husband'. I think he can share some of the hardship of you.

I think one of the problems with today's children is, they grow up in a protective environment. How do you tackle this as his mother? Ordinary people can throw out many ideas to this question. But, they won't know unless they become a kid's parent.